My son is still in rehab in California, I still have limited contact with him which doesn't make sense to me because he talks to his drug addict girlfriend and his father daily but they say I'm the one is upset with so no contact. That's fine with me though. I was suppose to be able to relax since he is now safe but that's not the case. His girlfriend is still a heroin addict, she is still living in the apartment that they shared. They were transporting gang drug dealers from another state and letting them stay there while the came to town to sell their drugs. They received a little money and heroin for doing that. My son told me himself that they had guns so it's completely not a safe place. He even told me that he could never go back there. We cosigned for this apartment (I know, crazy) but she has given a 30 day notice that she is moving out but now she tried to take back the notice but can't (thank God) because it's already been rented for the first the month. She hasn't paid the rent for this month and for everyday it's late there's a $5 charge which falls back on us, so we already will owe $700 if she moves out by the 30th , I don't think she will and then we will owe more. Lesson learned, NEVER cosign!!! I have a key to the apartment and I am thinking of moving her out while she is at work and having the lock changed, my son will be so mad and probably hate me more but I sure don't want to have to pay more. That's one of my problems! She can go stay with her mom but she just doesn't want to. I was hoping if she didn't have anywhere to go besides her moms that she would go to rehab herself. If my son comes back to an addict then he will be right back on drugs too and I will have done all of this for nothing. My next problem is that my son is manipulating his father ( not married to him) , his girlfriend is driving my sons car which is in his dad's name and my son is telling his dad that if he doesn't continue to let her keep the car and help her pay rent or get a place to live that he is quitting rehab and coming home. I tried to tell his dad the things I've learned in counseling, alanon, and from you guys and he attacked me said that my son was on drugs because of me. He said that no wonder my son is on drugs from having to put up with me his whole life and that he will not turn his back on him. I tried to explain its not turning your back but not enabling. That didn't work, just got attacked more, called lots of names. He has always told my son a lot of lies about me. My son was never very close to him until he started using drugs and now they are tight, he was close with me. His dad has been in denial about his drug use , even tried to back out of the intervention we had to get him to rehab but now he tries to take credit for the intervention. If he helps her get another place to live then my son is coming back to a drug house. My anxiety is so bad, I'm so scared for the future.