Our church started a mentor/mentee program last year. Each 6,7 and 8th grader was paired with a same sex adult - and they meet once a month at church and occasionally on their own. Today at church the woman who is the "mentor" to my difficult child took me aside to talk to me. She was also the "hostess" during coffee time and had brought a coffee cake with nuts to serve. difficult child went to her and informed her she was taking 2 pieces of cake and was going to go over and eat it in front of easy child because she had braces and couldn't eat things with nuts (easy child got braces 5 days ago and still very sore). So... the mentor took me aside and told me about this incident. She said she was shocked because it was just out right mean and cruel and she new that difficult child was considerate to other people. Well, family is different with difficult child. We have to put up with it (to a point). So she asked if it was OK if she spoke with her during their mentor time together today. She stressed how important that you treat your family as the most important people in your life. I explained that I have had many such talks - but maybe she would take advice from her better than me.
I would love to ask difficult child about "the talk" but I know I shouldn't as I told mentor I'd let this discussion be just between them. Last week, the mentor asked me if it was OK to say something about some of the inappropriate things she puts on fb. She and I are both fb friends to difficult child so we both see what is posted. Some things had the bxxtch word. Another one was just kind of suggestive. So I hope difficult child got the double whammy from her today.
Of course, she has a teen boy and girl close to difficult child's age and I am sure things are just wonderful at their house. I know that her dtr has even told difficult child not to pick on easy child during sunday school once. And told difficult child that her brother is her best friend. Gee... I wish I didn't have sibling rivalry. ksm
I would love to ask difficult child about "the talk" but I know I shouldn't as I told mentor I'd let this discussion be just between them. Last week, the mentor asked me if it was OK to say something about some of the inappropriate things she puts on fb. She and I are both fb friends to difficult child so we both see what is posted. Some things had the bxxtch word. Another one was just kind of suggestive. So I hope difficult child got the double whammy from her today.
Of course, she has a teen boy and girl close to difficult child's age and I am sure things are just wonderful at their house. I know that her dtr has even told difficult child not to pick on easy child during sunday school once. And told difficult child that her brother is her best friend. Gee... I wish I didn't have sibling rivalry. ksm