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<blockquote data-quote="timer lady" data-source="post: 156650" data-attributes="member: 393"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong>I agree with meowbunny. The system isn't honest ~ adoptive parents aren't given the chance to make an educated informed decision about these children; sets families up to fail.</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong>I also agree that now may be the time to look into Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement. My son, wm, had 2 Residential Treatment Center (RTC) stays totaling almost 2 years. kt had a 10 month Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement. </strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong>For kt, it was one of the best things to happen to her. She really learned many of the basic life skills that we didn't have the time to teach her ~ the skills she missed earlier, that she should have learned in bio home when she was a toddler. kt has since blossomed (with a few crisis's in between).</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong>by the way, I've seen the same behaviors & acting out from my ktbug. She was hurt by her twin & while the actions seemed to be bipolar or some other disorder, after all the testing & such was done we had complex PTSD & severe attachment disorder. It was all emotionally based & has taken a great deal of therapy. We're not close to being half done. </strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong>We've had to work on kt's ptsd; reassure her that she is safe & that she can trust us (mom & dad) to protect her. There are days she believes it, days she doesn't. It's going to be a long journey to healing in my baby girl. I expect the same will hold true for your difficult child.</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong>kt is angry, so very angry at her twin; that he would hurt her. She is missing her twin brother. She loves & hates him. I would guess that your difficult child feels the same mixed emotions toward her brother. She needs a safe calm objective place in which to share those feelings. It's too ugly, as the parent of that young man, to listen to the venom come out of your daughter's mouth ~ however justified.</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong>I'm not saying you shouldn't have all the testing done. I did. I believed that if we could find that one disorder that could be addressed with medications, we wouldn't be labeled bad parents because kt has attachment issues & we didn't keep her safe from her brother. Who knew? No one told us that wm perpetrated toward his twin sister. </strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong>You are in many ways in the same boat we are in....I hope that you find answers soonest. Whatever the outcome your difficult child is getting of the age that this needs to be addressed.</strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="font-family: 'Century Gothic'"><strong></strong></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="timer lady, post: 156650, member: 393"] [SIZE=3][FONT=Century Gothic][B]I agree with meowbunny. The system isn't honest ~ adoptive parents aren't given the chance to make an educated informed decision about these children; sets families up to fail. I also agree that now may be the time to look into Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement. My son, wm, had 2 Residential Treatment Center (RTC) stays totaling almost 2 years. kt had a 10 month Residential Treatment Center (RTC) placement. For kt, it was one of the best things to happen to her. She really learned many of the basic life skills that we didn't have the time to teach her ~ the skills she missed earlier, that she should have learned in bio home when she was a toddler. kt has since blossomed (with a few crisis's in between). by the way, I've seen the same behaviors & acting out from my ktbug. She was hurt by her twin & while the actions seemed to be bipolar or some other disorder, after all the testing & such was done we had complex PTSD & severe attachment disorder. It was all emotionally based & has taken a great deal of therapy. We're not close to being half done. We've had to work on kt's ptsd; reassure her that she is safe & that she can trust us (mom & dad) to protect her. There are days she believes it, days she doesn't. It's going to be a long journey to healing in my baby girl. I expect the same will hold true for your difficult child. kt is angry, so very angry at her twin; that he would hurt her. She is missing her twin brother. She loves & hates him. I would guess that your difficult child feels the same mixed emotions toward her brother. She needs a safe calm objective place in which to share those feelings. It's too ugly, as the parent of that young man, to listen to the venom come out of your daughter's mouth ~ however justified. I'm not saying you shouldn't have all the testing done. I did. I believed that if we could find that one disorder that could be addressed with medications, we wouldn't be labeled bad parents because kt has attachment issues & we didn't keep her safe from her brother. Who knew? No one told us that wm perpetrated toward his twin sister. You are in many ways in the same boat we are in....I hope that you find answers soonest. Whatever the outcome your difficult child is getting of the age that this needs to be addressed. [/B][/FONT][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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