Trust and impulsive teenage difficult child's

[flutterby]

15 is a relative number. While a child may be 15 in chronological years, it doesn't mean he's 15 in emotional years.

Plus, becoming sexually active doesn't necessarily stop the porn infatuation/obsession/interest.

I don't think Gcvmom's difficult child 1 is - and Gcv let me know if I've crossed a line - is emotionally ready to process what he sees in porn vs real life. We're not talking about a easy child and natural curiosity here. We're talking about a kid that may or may not be able to tell the difference between what is real and what is over the top. I tell ya, I am not a prude by anyone's definition, but some of what I've seen on the internet (and I don't go searching it out, for the record) is unsettling to me.

Neither one of my kids are/were interested in dating around, having a boyfriend/girlfriend just for the sake of having one, or experimenting with whomever was willing just because they could/can. And a close friend of mine told me that because of that my kids "aren't normal". Well, if that's the current definition of normal, I'm glad they're not normal.

 

[Nancy]

I know exactly how you were feeling at dinner when you got the text. I've been through similar situations here and have become an expert at parental controls. Of course now mow difficult child is 18 and has her own laptop so it's a moot issue, but if and when he ever gets computer access again make sure you get good parental controls.

Nancy

 

[DammitJanet]

I realize becoming sexually active doesnt stop the porn interest or Hugh Heffner would be broke!

It just worked out well for us because Cory was quite adept at surfing the web and finding sex chats where he could do multiple private chats at the same time. That boy was very talented, let me tell ya. If he had only put all that effort into doing school work instead of typing in instant messages? OMG...he would have had a masters degree...lmao. We once caught him in 6 instant messages, one web cam, and had the cell phone going too! And his dad can type with one finger...lmao.