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<blockquote data-quote="Andy" data-source="post: 359084" data-attributes="member: 5096"><p>This sounds somewhat familiar with difficult child's situation when he was in the psychiatric hospital. He had been begging for a dog for a very long time. husband and I do not want a dog or cat in our house and never gave in to Diva for one so why should we get one for difficult child? At the family meeting the psychiatric hospital SW strongly suggested that we should get a dog or cat. I told her that we were very much opposed to that because neither husband or I are willing to take care of one. We know no matter what the kids say that after a few weeks (if we are lucky to have that much time), the kids would stop the attention to the pet and we would have to do all the work. I REFUSE!!!!</p><p> </p><p>I really think your therapist is falling for your child's begging for a horse. Your daughter is promising therapist all the right things - oh how much life would be better if......., oh how happier I would be if.......... Your therapist like the psychiatric hospital SW is falling for it.</p><p> </p><p>Stick to your guns. You can not afford this and I would think lessons would be a good start IF you are able to afford those. Make your difficult child earn each step along the way in MAYBE a future horse? If she can not follow through with the lessons - including your presence while she is there, then she is NOT ready for the responsibility of a horse of her own.</p><p> </p><p>Tell your therapist that you are not willing to give difficult child this grand treasure until she can prove she is ready for it and that will not be while her total disrespect for you is active. If difficult child can not be motivated to behave for the length of the lesson while you are on grounds, then she is not ready to take care of a horse.</p><p> </p><p>I wouldn't take her to horse shows unless YOU see they are beneficial. IF you want to go the route of the lessons, than therapist has to focus on that step ONLY. therapist has to work with difficult child to show respect in every aspect of the lessons. She has to be successful for an entire year (or two) before you will CONSIDER a horse. therapist should know better than to try to make difficult child's grandiose dreams a reality. therapist needs to be working on helping difficult child become respectful before suggesting things like this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Andy, post: 359084, member: 5096"] This sounds somewhat familiar with difficult child's situation when he was in the psychiatric hospital. He had been begging for a dog for a very long time. husband and I do not want a dog or cat in our house and never gave in to Diva for one so why should we get one for difficult child? At the family meeting the psychiatric hospital SW strongly suggested that we should get a dog or cat. I told her that we were very much opposed to that because neither husband or I are willing to take care of one. We know no matter what the kids say that after a few weeks (if we are lucky to have that much time), the kids would stop the attention to the pet and we would have to do all the work. I REFUSE!!!! I really think your therapist is falling for your child's begging for a horse. Your daughter is promising therapist all the right things - oh how much life would be better if......., oh how happier I would be if.......... Your therapist like the psychiatric hospital SW is falling for it. Stick to your guns. You can not afford this and I would think lessons would be a good start IF you are able to afford those. Make your difficult child earn each step along the way in MAYBE a future horse? If she can not follow through with the lessons - including your presence while she is there, then she is NOT ready for the responsibility of a horse of her own. Tell your therapist that you are not willing to give difficult child this grand treasure until she can prove she is ready for it and that will not be while her total disrespect for you is active. If difficult child can not be motivated to behave for the length of the lesson while you are on grounds, then she is not ready to take care of a horse. I wouldn't take her to horse shows unless YOU see they are beneficial. IF you want to go the route of the lessons, than therapist has to focus on that step ONLY. therapist has to work with difficult child to show respect in every aspect of the lessons. She has to be successful for an entire year (or two) before you will CONSIDER a horse. therapist should know better than to try to make difficult child's grandiose dreams a reality. therapist needs to be working on helping difficult child become respectful before suggesting things like this. [/QUOTE]
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