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<blockquote data-quote="Stella" data-source="post: 300770" data-attributes="member: 6837"><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">Grace Upon Grace, Susie Star, ML Thank you so much for your kind, empathic, understanding words. I was afraid that I would only be judged and crucified on here for doing what I am doing and while I do understand that it may seem unethical and I actually agree that this could backfire and there are many possible scenarios in which this could happen, I needed to do something NOW. I have tried in the past sitting her down and telling her what the medications were for but she refused and raged so badly I couldnt handle it. I am a single mom and its just me and difficult child at home so I have no help or support during a rage. She is a very strong 11 year old girl now and has no trouble breaking and throwing things, calling me every name under the sun. Only last week she picked up a heavy candle through it at her grannys head and split her head open. When difficult child saw the blood gushing from her grannys head and granny crippled on the ground in tears all difficult child could say was I didnt mean to get you on your head and walked off.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">If or when difficult child realises what these medications are for I will cross that bridge when I come to it. If the medications work and she settles down to a point where I can actually engage in a proper conversation with her well then I might choose to sit her down and tell her the truth and insist she keep taking them. I will also explain why i had to lie to her in the first place, that I was doing it for her own good. If in the unlikely event that she does get swine flu, I will deal with that then. I am surviving day by day and am trying not to anticipate future problems as they may never happen. I know the issue of trust is at stake here but honestly our relationship is so strained and broken at the moment, I dont feel like there is too much to lose. I feel like our relationship is at rock bottom anyway.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">I feel that I am being cruel to be kind and am doing this as it is the only thing left that I havent tried yet to help her. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">In an ideal situation I could sit her down and explain the truth about her medications but this is far from an ideal situation and I know my difficult child well enough to know that if she knew what they were for she would rather die or die trying not to take them. She is THAT headstrong.</span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">So far she has taken them last night and night before without too much of a battle which I am delighted about although I havent really seen a change yet. She is only on .25 mg for the first week to start her off gently but I expect I might see more a change when she starts on 0.5mg next week. </span></span></span></p><p> </p><p><span style="font-size: 12px"><span style="color: #000000"><span style="font-family: 'Times New Roman'">I am aware now not to pin all my hopes on this drug but I at least as Dazed said it offers some hope and a bit of hope can go a long way!</span></span></span></p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Stella, post: 300770, member: 6837"] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Times New Roman]Grace Upon Grace, Susie Star, ML Thank you so much for your kind, empathic, understanding words. I was afraid that I would only be judged and crucified on here for doing what I am doing and while I do understand that it may seem unethical and I actually agree that this could backfire and there are many possible scenarios in which this could happen, I needed to do something NOW. I have tried in the past sitting her down and telling her what the medications were for but she refused and raged so badly I couldnt handle it. I am a single mom and its just me and difficult child at home so I have no help or support during a rage. She is a very strong 11 year old girl now and has no trouble breaking and throwing things, calling me every name under the sun. Only last week she picked up a heavy candle through it at her grannys head and split her head open. When difficult child saw the blood gushing from her grannys head and granny crippled on the ground in tears all difficult child could say was I didnt mean to get you on your head and walked off.[/FONT][/COLOR][/SIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Times New Roman]If or when difficult child realises what these medications are for I will cross that bridge when I come to it. If the medications work and she settles down to a point where I can actually engage in a proper conversation with her well then I might choose to sit her down and tell her the truth and insist she keep taking them. I will also explain why i had to lie to her in the first place, that I was doing it for her own good. If in the unlikely event that she does get swine flu, I will deal with that then. I am surviving day by day and am trying not to anticipate future problems as they may never happen. I know the issue of trust is at stake here but honestly our relationship is so strained and broken at the moment, I dont feel like there is too much to lose. I feel like our relationship is at rock bottom anyway.[/FONT][/COLOR][/SIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Times New Roman]I feel that I am being cruel to be kind and am doing this as it is the only thing left that I havent tried yet to help her. [/FONT][/COLOR][/SIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Times New Roman]In an ideal situation I could sit her down and explain the truth about her medications but this is far from an ideal situation and I know my difficult child well enough to know that if she knew what they were for she would rather die or die trying not to take them. She is THAT headstrong.[/FONT][/COLOR][/SIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Times New Roman]So far she has taken them last night and night before without too much of a battle which I am delighted about although I havent really seen a change yet. She is only on .25 mg for the first week to start her off gently but I expect I might see more a change when she starts on 0.5mg next week. [/FONT][/COLOR][/SIZE] [FONT=Times New Roman][SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000] [/COLOR][/SIZE][/FONT] [SIZE=3][COLOR=#000000][FONT=Times New Roman]I am aware now not to pin all my hopes on this drug but I at least as Dazed said it offers some hope and a bit of hope can go a long way![/FONT][/COLOR][/SIZE] [/QUOTE]
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