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Turning my back was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do
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<blockquote data-quote="Albatross" data-source="post: 731914" data-attributes="member: 17720"><p>I too cried when I read your post. </p><p></p><p>This is so sad. My son used to say similar things, that there was no point because he would never "get it."</p><p></p><p>It's such a hard call to make, whether giving them physical support is going to lead to them trying to repair their lives or lead to them using the support as a crutch so they can continue their self-destruction. With my son, we tried everything, then tried it again a couple more times for good measure, until we finally figured out that we just weren't helping.</p><p></p><p>My son is doing very well now, but a year ago my husband and I were in that place your son is, so fearful that our son would never find his way out.</p><p></p><p>It sounds as if you've done everything you could have, and then some, and then some more. He used it to make his situation worse, as my son did.</p><p></p><p>We can't as parents help our children destroy themselves.</p><p></p><p>We can't as human beings expect ourselves to take a front row for their destruction.</p><p></p><p>It doesn't make it any less heartbreaking, though.</p><p></p><p>Your son is now facing the reality of his choices, and the outcome is up to him, as it always has been. My prayer is that in facing his reality, he finally realizes that he DOES want to know you better, he DOES want to work his way back, and it's worth fighting for.</p><p></p><p>By the way, such a beautiful version of that song. Thank you for sharing.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Albatross, post: 731914, member: 17720"] I too cried when I read your post. This is so sad. My son used to say similar things, that there was no point because he would never "get it." It's such a hard call to make, whether giving them physical support is going to lead to them trying to repair their lives or lead to them using the support as a crutch so they can continue their self-destruction. With my son, we tried everything, then tried it again a couple more times for good measure, until we finally figured out that we just weren't helping. My son is doing very well now, but a year ago my husband and I were in that place your son is, so fearful that our son would never find his way out. It sounds as if you've done everything you could have, and then some, and then some more. He used it to make his situation worse, as my son did. We can't as parents help our children destroy themselves. We can't as human beings expect ourselves to take a front row for their destruction. It doesn't make it any less heartbreaking, though. Your son is now facing the reality of his choices, and the outcome is up to him, as it always has been. My prayer is that in facing his reality, he finally realizes that he DOES want to know you better, he DOES want to work his way back, and it's worth fighting for. By the way, such a beautiful version of that song. Thank you for sharing. [/QUOTE]
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