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Turns Out that difficult child's Biggest Problem is Me
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<blockquote data-quote="DaisyFace" data-source="post: 437353" data-attributes="member: 6546"><p>Thank you all so much!</p><p></p><p>To be honest, if it wasn't for this community....Ms Ally's comment would have cut me to the core.</p><p></p><p>Instead, after that initial hurt - I was able to step back and analyze our session. I wondered why I had been targeted as the problem - I mean, wasn't husband the one that threw difficult child out the door last week? How come HE wasn't the problem? How come difficult child - after sitting there arguing with Ms Ally - was just dismissed from session? How come difficult child was not identified as the problem?</p><p></p><p>And then I realized - </p><p></p><p><em>I</em> was the problem, because I was the only one still sitting there. husband was working. difficult child had been sent out of the room. So who's left to work with? Yep. Me.</p><p></p><p>Ms Ally is no dummy - I think she sees that her usual methods are not going to work. After all, she was supposed to start with "Parenting 101" - but my Certificates of Completion from the parenting classes we already took blew <em>that</em> out of the water. Then this session - I demonstrated plain as day that behavior contracts were in-effective.</p><p></p><p>So what's left?</p><p></p><p>Well, Ms Ally has to document for her supervisor that she implemented the techniques and they worked. We did A, B, C, - and success!</p><p></p><p>Her only alternative is that the parents are "uncooperative". I told them A, B, C - but they refused...no wonder it didn't work!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DaisyFace, post: 437353, member: 6546"] Thank you all so much! To be honest, if it wasn't for this community....Ms Ally's comment would have cut me to the core. Instead, after that initial hurt - I was able to step back and analyze our session. I wondered why I had been targeted as the problem - I mean, wasn't husband the one that threw difficult child out the door last week? How come HE wasn't the problem? How come difficult child - after sitting there arguing with Ms Ally - was just dismissed from session? How come difficult child was not identified as the problem? And then I realized - [I]I[/I] was the problem, because I was the only one still sitting there. husband was working. difficult child had been sent out of the room. So who's left to work with? Yep. Me. Ms Ally is no dummy - I think she sees that her usual methods are not going to work. After all, she was supposed to start with "Parenting 101" - but my Certificates of Completion from the parenting classes we already took blew [I]that[/I] out of the water. Then this session - I demonstrated plain as day that behavior contracts were in-effective. So what's left? Well, Ms Ally has to document for her supervisor that she implemented the techniques and they worked. We did A, B, C, - and success! Her only alternative is that the parents are "uncooperative". I told them A, B, C - but they refused...no wonder it didn't work! [/QUOTE]
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