Can you relate? Last night difficult child got into a MAJOR fight with her new boyfriend. Soooo loud that stuff was broken, no doubt other people heard....repercussions could be felt (what a surprise...NOT!). She basically shows no remorse and/or accountability for this fight...although she was the one doing all the yelling, etc. NO understanding at all that her actions/behaviors continue to lead to horrible turmoil. It's not other people...it's her...but she ain't gettin it! The fight was about who had the worst childhood. difficult child comes from a two parent home and was very much wanted, lived in a nice neighbohood, went to private school when she messed up at public school, had many friends in her youth, expensive tutors when she needed them, had a housekeeper when she was messy teen, had a therapist and a psychiatrist....most of her life....and she has a roof over her head currently. (not in our home though!) Her boyfriend (seems nice...who knows) has two drug addicted parents and lived mostly in poverty with his grandmother and moved out when he was 18 always struggling to find a place to stay. difficult child is currently playing the card that her childhood was very difficult. Sigh. So, have you all heard this one before? Why would anyone argue that their life is WORSE than yours? More excuses...and this one is just sooooooo TWISTED and exaggerated it is ridiculous. They called us for help...we ignored them. Felt bad for the boy. Eventually they worked it out...but it did get rather ugly for a short period of time. If there are repercussions...so be it. A good friend of mine says her difficult child sister learned about repercussions for bad behavior around the age of 40. I can only hope that it is sooner than that....only time will tell and only difficult child herself can do this work. Sigh and UGH.