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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 482486" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Yes, DDD, that is a good idea... if I can get it together to do it every evening (you know what it's like)... Such a journal would, in any case, make for interesting reading later I think... I do agree that there are many instances of calm and enjoyment that don't merit the same attention - why do human beings always fixate on the negative?? I do try to point out all the positive things he does to J as much as the negative, but I have to confess that there is more emotion on my side invested in the negative - with J, as I've said (and I'm sure we can all recognise something of this?), I'm really fighting with my own nature as much as his. Away from the heat of battle, I can be as calm and reasonable and mature as the next (wo)man, but when under fire, emotional and impulsive reactions emerge... So we kind of have the same problem in a sense. </p><p>About the predictability, you really are right - have noticed so many times how a change of routine or something unexpected will upset and destablize him, usually manifesting in temper tantrums. Which does beg the question of whether it's better to accommodate that or to try to introduce the possibility of spontaneity and change, and handling those things?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 482486, member: 11227"] Yes, DDD, that is a good idea... if I can get it together to do it every evening (you know what it's like)... Such a journal would, in any case, make for interesting reading later I think... I do agree that there are many instances of calm and enjoyment that don't merit the same attention - why do human beings always fixate on the negative?? I do try to point out all the positive things he does to J as much as the negative, but I have to confess that there is more emotion on my side invested in the negative - with J, as I've said (and I'm sure we can all recognise something of this?), I'm really fighting with my own nature as much as his. Away from the heat of battle, I can be as calm and reasonable and mature as the next (wo)man, but when under fire, emotional and impulsive reactions emerge... So we kind of have the same problem in a sense. About the predictability, you really are right - have noticed so many times how a change of routine or something unexpected will upset and destablize him, usually manifesting in temper tantrums. Which does beg the question of whether it's better to accommodate that or to try to introduce the possibility of spontaneity and change, and handling those things? [/QUOTE]
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