UGG school called, gonna go get him, ready for a not so fun time...

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by buddy, Dec 9, 2011.

  1. buddy

    buddy New Member

    He can't follow a direction to even sit down, grabbed teacher's arm, spit, etc... I will bring prn medication... here i go again... say a prayer we need all the blessings we can at these times....

    Thanks, Dee
  2. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    Praying for you. I hope the prn works.
  3. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    :hugs: praying too.
  4. TeDo

    TeDo Guest

    Was it the bus issue continuing & escalating or was it a seizure? Just from what's been going on lately, those are my two educated "guesses". {{{{(((HUGS)))}}}} to BOTH of you. It's gotta be hard.
  5. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    Sending prayers for both of you. I really hope the prn helps him settle in. (((hugs)))
  6. Malika

    Malika Well-Known Member

    Sorry to hear that Dee.
  7. buddy

    buddy New Member

    by the time I got there the had the blech, puke psychologist come to "escort" me down....after this many years what is that ****? So I see him part way and he says he is still agitated so I am going to go get J or R (vp or p) to come and I said, are you kidding me, we have done this for years and now you want to bring them and escalate him? You know that is not the way to do this. He said, WIll you just wait here...I said fine but if you let him see you I will have something to say about it and I am calling C (the lawyer NOW). He left and got the principal who came Occupational Therapist (OT) me and asked how I was and asked about hte damn weather. ARE you fing kidding me? (sorry this post is not me but....arrgggg) So principal says we are worried about safety (duh why the hell do you think I am here it is the same thing as has happened for the last 5.4 years, nothing new) and I said, "as I have I have said and done for the last over 5 years I ALWAYS think he needs to be home if he is unsafe. Something is wrong with him on those days. I have never ever asked you t o keep him then. If he sees you though, you are going to make this harder. Well he threatened to go after you. I said well, I know , and I live with that and his threats dont happen unless you give them attention (which they already had obviously) so he said well how are we gonna decide if he goes home? I said what?? I just said I am here to get him, that has never been the issue, all I am asking is you dont put a time limiit on it..well we are worried abou teh teacher....UMMMMMMMMMMMMMMM dont have her keep walking in his room when he is all calm and telling him "your mom is gonna come and take you home and so no bus today..." that will pretty much take the panic out of it. Well, ok then we will stay back.. I went to him, he came at me I told him to stop and gave him a bear I brought, a pill and softer pants and he changed them. I found out that the whole thing started because he wanted to eat his snack in the swing to calm and she said no the table and she wants that rule hard and firm. (really? THIS is the power struggle you want to win?) HE was still upset about the bus, yes. And they said he seemed really tired and when he is focused on food he cant' think of anything else. That is true normally but only when he really hadn't eaten for a while. Seems to be all the time now. I really think this is gonna be a side effect that is too much to overcome.

    He asked me to have them let him stay, I said the principal already said no so we had to go, he said can I get a hair cut and I said sure. We went to procuts and he got a cheap (new company here and on sale) haircut with the towel and smelly stuff and back massage he loves. We went to big lots and the girl pushed cash and had to re do our order, then made a mistake and Q lost it.... i sent him out and we finally came home.

    He is ok now but a little off. Just worried and is focused on his tennis ball collection, wants some that I took a while ago, so I said that was a good thing to earn with good behavior. He has decided to clean his whole room (I think he is worried about Santa after all this because, he said, good think Santa doesn't know, then said... I know he probably does but I will show him I can do better, and I said that always works)

    Poor boy. I would gladly leave there if there was somewhere to go.
  8. JJJ

    JJJ Active Member

    (((Hugs))) He sounds so much like Tigger. He has a good heart, give him a big hug from me. I'm proud of him for calming down and cleaning his room!

    It sounds like you handled it very well. It is hard when the school staff becomes a bigger part of the problem than the disabled child.
  9. Malika

    Malika Well-Known Member

    I can't imagine dealing with this kind of thing day after day. I know one gets tougher but I cannot imagine having to fight like this on such a constant basis. I hope only that you can have some place of soft landing for you both eventually.
  10. StressedM0mma

    StressedM0mma Active Member

    Dee you are an amazing mother. How great that Q managed to calm and actually want to do some work to earn his tennis balls back. Sometimes I wonder what the schools are thinking. Hope the rest of your day went more smoothly.
  11. buddy

    buddy New Member

    I am moving to France
  12. Malika

    Malika Well-Known Member

    Ha, ha!
  13. Liahona

    Liahona Guest

    I hope your day went well. Just think tomorrow is Sat! No school for you to deal with.