difficult child and his girlfriend were at our house yesterday. I noticed a car in the driveway, and the dogs were barking, and it was the girlfriend's mom, T. I called the kids and T started to yell and point at the girlfriend. I asked if she needed me and she said no. Then husband overheard what it was about ... she found the girl's journal/letters with-sexual description and wanna-be acts, just like the one that difficult child had made. We found his a cpl mo's ago and I posted here. Of course, husband put his head in the sand. "We were sneakier" or something. I said, "We were 5 yrs older--19--and I was on the pill." NOT the same! (She is 14, difficult child is 16) So T left with-o talking to us, and the girlfriend sat down and cried. The yelling did not do anything but make her feel bad. husband and I plan to get together with-T, and the kids on Tuesday. I think we should come up with-a plan first, and then have the kids talk with-us. I hate to make a big deal out of it ... sometimes that will make the kids want to go ahead and do something, but if we ignore it ... Arrgh! I don't know what else to do ... someone here suggested that I just drop a pkg of condoms in difficult child's room casually.