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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 326446" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>I think DF makes you take your consceince (can't sp tonite) out and look at it. That's not usually very comfortable.</p><p> </p><p>In one way she is very right. difficult child can be a mega PITA to put it mildly while easy child does much for you. However, what her maturity level doesn't show her is that buying that laptop for difficult child is so much more than a simple expensive gift when you don't have the money. You're giving her encouragement to be the person she is one day destined to be. You're giving her a chance to be that person.</p><p> </p><p>easy child while he's a good kid and a huge help to you.......well, he is grown and it is solely up to him now. His success for failure at his life rests squarely on his shoulders. What you should have said to his very well meaning df is that you did similar things to encourage and give easy child the chance to succeed in his life.</p><p> </p><p>Personally.......is difficult child really going to appreciate the GPS? Is he still going to appreciate it when he knows it has put you into a major financial bind to give it to him? Odds are, he'll be happier with the controller for his game.</p><p> </p><p>Your children are at different stages in their lives and each need different things. DF is just too young and immature to even begin to understand this concept as she's never been a mother.</p><p> </p><p>I know it makes you feel bad you can't lavish those you love with gifts. I'm in the same boat. But these are hard times. That's just the way it is and part of being an adult is learning to accept things such as this. DF only sees thru a child's eyes that you bought something expensive for one kid and didn't for the other. Know what I mean??</p><p> </p><p>My advice, get easy child the gift he would really like to have and don't worry about money value. Take the GPS back and ease your financial worry so that you too can enjoy your favorite holiday. easy child is a grown child. You've already given him a valuable gift by letting him live there rent free. If he complains or DF brings it up again you might want to point out to him if he were paying rent you might have had more extra cash in which to enjoy gift giving.</p><p> </p><p>Tuck away the guilt. </p><p> </p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 326446, member: 84"] I think DF makes you take your consceince (can't sp tonite) out and look at it. That's not usually very comfortable. In one way she is very right. difficult child can be a mega PITA to put it mildly while easy child does much for you. However, what her maturity level doesn't show her is that buying that laptop for difficult child is so much more than a simple expensive gift when you don't have the money. You're giving her encouragement to be the person she is one day destined to be. You're giving her a chance to be that person. easy child while he's a good kid and a huge help to you.......well, he is grown and it is solely up to him now. His success for failure at his life rests squarely on his shoulders. What you should have said to his very well meaning df is that you did similar things to encourage and give easy child the chance to succeed in his life. Personally.......is difficult child really going to appreciate the GPS? Is he still going to appreciate it when he knows it has put you into a major financial bind to give it to him? Odds are, he'll be happier with the controller for his game. Your children are at different stages in their lives and each need different things. DF is just too young and immature to even begin to understand this concept as she's never been a mother. I know it makes you feel bad you can't lavish those you love with gifts. I'm in the same boat. But these are hard times. That's just the way it is and part of being an adult is learning to accept things such as this. DF only sees thru a child's eyes that you bought something expensive for one kid and didn't for the other. Know what I mean?? My advice, get easy child the gift he would really like to have and don't worry about money value. Take the GPS back and ease your financial worry so that you too can enjoy your favorite holiday. easy child is a grown child. You've already given him a valuable gift by letting him live there rent free. If he complains or DF brings it up again you might want to point out to him if he were paying rent you might have had more extra cash in which to enjoy gift giving. Tuck away the guilt. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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