i'm the one with the fatherless son who just lost his grandfather 2 weeks ago. he's refusing to get out of bed, crying, mean, nasty, mad at me, gritting his teeth and hyperventilating. this is terrible. he already wore me out with his 3 yrs of destructive behavior, I don't have the patience I should have for the situation at this point. Definitely need to force him into grief counseling but he's 16 and won't get out of bed! not sure how I will get him to go! Gah!!