I've been chatting with a guy online. We traded photos and he's very nice looking. He just asked me out so we can meet in person. It will be a public place of course. Any idea how to play this safer- other than time to see if he really works where he says he does, he really isn't married and stuff like that? I've been WAY out of the dating circle for a very long time. After difficult child's father turned out to be a completely different person than who he claimed, I'd really like to get him to sign a release form so I can do a background check, but that might be too forward, huh? I have a big distrust for men in general. I tend to think good-looking single men would prefer to either mess around with several women; "play" them so-to-speak, or look for a trophy wife. I honestly abhor the thought of getting to know a man who'd do either. Can I at least demand to see medical records stating a vasectomy has been performed on him if we pursue a relationship?