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<blockquote data-quote="flutterby" data-source="post: 257623" data-attributes="member: 7083"><p>Susan,</p><p></p><p>I agree completely with Lisa.</p><p></p><p>My mom and I were talking the other day and she said something that really struck me: <em>Most people are exactly where they want to be in life.</em></p><p></p><p>This is where difficult child wants to be right now. Life hasn't become too uncomfortable for him to want to change. If he didn't want to be where he is, he would be sincerely trying to make changes. A lot of people struggle, but when people are really trying, they'll eventually get to where they want to be.</p><p></p><p>I know this isn't where you want him to be. I know as a mother it is devastating. But, no amount of you wanting his life to be different is going to make it so. He is the only one who can change it. </p><p></p><p>In the past, others have posted the link to the thread with "detachment" responses for when adult difficult child's call. I think you should print it out. Keep a copy by the phone. Keep a copy on your nightstand and one on your bathroom mirror and practice using them. </p><p></p><p>I don't think anyone can second-guess themselves and carry as much guilt as a mother. But, I think you can go to bed at night and feel like you have done everything humanly possible to help your son. Now it's on him.</p><p></p><p>Stay strong. </p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterby, post: 257623, member: 7083"] Susan, I agree completely with Lisa. My mom and I were talking the other day and she said something that really struck me: [I]Most people are exactly where they want to be in life.[/I] This is where difficult child wants to be right now. Life hasn't become too uncomfortable for him to want to change. If he didn't want to be where he is, he would be sincerely trying to make changes. A lot of people struggle, but when people are really trying, they'll eventually get to where they want to be. I know this isn't where you want him to be. I know as a mother it is devastating. But, no amount of you wanting his life to be different is going to make it so. He is the only one who can change it. In the past, others have posted the link to the thread with "detachment" responses for when adult difficult child's call. I think you should print it out. Keep a copy by the phone. Keep a copy on your nightstand and one on your bathroom mirror and practice using them. I don't think anyone can second-guess themselves and carry as much guilt as a mother. But, I think you can go to bed at night and feel like you have done everything humanly possible to help your son. Now it's on him. Stay strong. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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