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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 386308" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>Pardon me if I am wrong but didn't she beg and plead on her facebook page that she wanted to be saved to come back home to your state?</p><p> </p><p>Me thinks that cheesing off granny is a fantastic way to self sabotage and manipulate her way back home.</p><p> </p><p>If she is 17 she may be a minor but certainly is not a kid. A natural consequence of her behavior is to have to be accountable. Saving her just reinforces her negative behavior.</p><p> </p><p>I see 3 options;</p><p> </p><p>Sort it out (what she's doing now)</p><p>Get treatment (what will prevent her from being homeless, she has a choice, homeless in her case is a choice)</p><p>-or-</p><p>Apologize to granny and make nicey<img src="data:image/gif;base64,R0lGODlhAQABAIAAAAAAAP///yH5BAEAAAAALAAAAAABAAEAAAIBRAA7" class="smilie smilie--sprite smilie--sprite2" alt=";)" title="Wink ;)" loading="lazy" data-shortname=";)" /> (the only other way to sort things out without treatment, pay the piper)</p><p> </p><p>Around my house one thing we enforce strictly is "A tantrum or irrational outburst is an immediate NO to whatever it is difficult child wanted." I refuse to enable or encourage his antics. He only gets his way when he is going along with the program.</p><p> </p><p>If you "fall for" her damsel in distress game you may as well have never sent her away, you may get sucked right back in. If you don't keep firm boundaries she will likely use it against you, difficult child's are great for that!</p><p> </p><p>Personally I would change my locks, give her numbers to animal rescues for her pooch and then let the treatment center pick her up from a bus station or wherever she's at. If she steps one foot in your door without treatment she would have won and you can bet won't follow through. that week or month wait for a bed will turn into forever and a list of excuses with behaviors in the meantime.</p><p> </p><p>by the way, there are plenty of womens shelters, sleeping on the street is a choice.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 386308, member: 8617"] Pardon me if I am wrong but didn't she beg and plead on her facebook page that she wanted to be saved to come back home to your state? Me thinks that cheesing off granny is a fantastic way to self sabotage and manipulate her way back home. If she is 17 she may be a minor but certainly is not a kid. A natural consequence of her behavior is to have to be accountable. Saving her just reinforces her negative behavior. I see 3 options; Sort it out (what she's doing now) Get treatment (what will prevent her from being homeless, she has a choice, homeless in her case is a choice) -or- Apologize to granny and make nicey:winking: (the only other way to sort things out without treatment, pay the piper) Around my house one thing we enforce strictly is "A tantrum or irrational outburst is an immediate NO to whatever it is difficult child wanted." I refuse to enable or encourage his antics. He only gets his way when he is going along with the program. If you "fall for" her damsel in distress game you may as well have never sent her away, you may get sucked right back in. If you don't keep firm boundaries she will likely use it against you, difficult child's are great for that! Personally I would change my locks, give her numbers to animal rescues for her pooch and then let the treatment center pick her up from a bus station or wherever she's at. If she steps one foot in your door without treatment she would have won and you can bet won't follow through. that week or month wait for a bed will turn into forever and a list of excuses with behaviors in the meantime. by the way, there are plenty of womens shelters, sleeping on the street is a choice. [/QUOTE]
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