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<blockquote data-quote="Farmwife" data-source="post: 386483" data-attributes="member: 8617"><p>Old state, old friends, old habits. Addicts don't do well in new territory because getting a "hook up" is harder. Staying clean in an old home town without a new circle of friends or support system is a sure fire way to get strung out. Just ask at your next al anon meeting...</p><p> </p><p>She is 17 now, youg enough to save from a life of the fall out after a drug related felony as an adult, IYKWIM. The sooner she hits rock bottom the sooner she can emerge into adulthood ready to move forward. If someone saves her now she will have wasted more time, gotten into party mode one more time ect. I am no expert, though I have seen a lot in life, but the more she flip flops back and forth from sobriety to being dirty the harder it gets to stay that way long term. </p><p> </p><p>A good solid push and dedication to a new life is essential, she can't recover for you. She has to want to get better otherwise it is just going through the motions and won't stick. Doesn't sound like she is ready for that yet, she never will be unless you let her crash and burn. It is a very frightening thing, heart wrenching to watch. I feel for you. <strong>You can't protect her from herself.</strong></p><p> </p><p>Meth is a nasty one, real nasty. I wish I could offer hope. People do recover, I have seen it but not all do, some never come back. It also takes a long time to get there. The path to rock bottom is a horror story, things you just wouldn't want to know...it isn't pretty. I was the only one in a circle of friends who didn't try it and saw a lot of sad stories unfold. I'm sorry it has to be that way. Your baby is going to have a real rough ride, it isn't your fault. </p><p> </p><p>I highly suggest al anon and maybe counseling. Mourning the loss of a loved one to drugs is very slow and painful. The decline is very graphic, brutal and can take years. You are going to need a lot of support as she comes to certain conclusions in life. I don't want to be mean or overly dramatic. Sadly, I really do know what I am talking about in this subject. I am so so sorry.</p><p> </p><p>Even if you keep the cell phone on it may not always be reliable. Depending on how bad she may get she may trade it for a fix or just stop answering your calls once she gets to a certain stage. Sometimes guilt and emotional distance keeps users from wanting to talk to family, they don't like people seeing what they look like or how they live.</p><p> </p><p>Is there any way to get an intervention or lock her up in rehab before she hits 18?</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Farmwife, post: 386483, member: 8617"] Old state, old friends, old habits. Addicts don't do well in new territory because getting a "hook up" is harder. Staying clean in an old home town without a new circle of friends or support system is a sure fire way to get strung out. Just ask at your next al anon meeting... She is 17 now, youg enough to save from a life of the fall out after a drug related felony as an adult, IYKWIM. The sooner she hits rock bottom the sooner she can emerge into adulthood ready to move forward. If someone saves her now she will have wasted more time, gotten into party mode one more time ect. I am no expert, though I have seen a lot in life, but the more she flip flops back and forth from sobriety to being dirty the harder it gets to stay that way long term. A good solid push and dedication to a new life is essential, she can't recover for you. She has to want to get better otherwise it is just going through the motions and won't stick. Doesn't sound like she is ready for that yet, she never will be unless you let her crash and burn. It is a very frightening thing, heart wrenching to watch. I feel for you. [B]You can't protect her from herself.[/B] Meth is a nasty one, real nasty. I wish I could offer hope. People do recover, I have seen it but not all do, some never come back. It also takes a long time to get there. The path to rock bottom is a horror story, things you just wouldn't want to know...it isn't pretty. I was the only one in a circle of friends who didn't try it and saw a lot of sad stories unfold. I'm sorry it has to be that way. Your baby is going to have a real rough ride, it isn't your fault. I highly suggest al anon and maybe counseling. Mourning the loss of a loved one to drugs is very slow and painful. The decline is very graphic, brutal and can take years. You are going to need a lot of support as she comes to certain conclusions in life. I don't want to be mean or overly dramatic. Sadly, I really do know what I am talking about in this subject. I am so so sorry. Even if you keep the cell phone on it may not always be reliable. Depending on how bad she may get she may trade it for a fix or just stop answering your calls once she gets to a certain stage. Sometimes guilt and emotional distance keeps users from wanting to talk to family, they don't like people seeing what they look like or how they live. Is there any way to get an intervention or lock her up in rehab before she hits 18? [/QUOTE]
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