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<blockquote data-quote="Ktllc" data-source="post: 462998" data-attributes="member: 11847"><p>To avoid tantrums, I find it really helpful to stick to a bedtime routine. That bedtime routine has to start at least 1 hour before going to bed. Ours is pretty easy: clean the house (toys get picked up by the kids, dirty clothes in laundry by the kids as well, and I do the rest), bath time, supper time and then we chill (my oldest watches a few cartoons and V plays quietly or snuggle with me). If the bedtime routine is disturbed, watch out!! And it can be a very tiny change, or too much conversation/stimulation. When we all chill, I also make sure to turn most lights off. </p><p>What also works and making sure V understand what is happening and why. The tyopical "because I said so" just does not work. I make sure to have his attention, explain and ask him to rephrase for me. This way I know if he processed the information or not. That technique has helped us a lot. It is actually unbelievable how many tantrums we've avoided since we do that.</p><p>The "problem" with all that: it is time consuming and it requires a lot of patience. Somedays, one wants quick and easy... and that does not work.</p><p>As parents of difficult child, we simply don't have the luxury of quick and easy. That's where respite is so important.</p><p>Don't blame yourself for the little tap, he will live through it.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Ktllc, post: 462998, member: 11847"] To avoid tantrums, I find it really helpful to stick to a bedtime routine. That bedtime routine has to start at least 1 hour before going to bed. Ours is pretty easy: clean the house (toys get picked up by the kids, dirty clothes in laundry by the kids as well, and I do the rest), bath time, supper time and then we chill (my oldest watches a few cartoons and V plays quietly or snuggle with me). If the bedtime routine is disturbed, watch out!! And it can be a very tiny change, or too much conversation/stimulation. When we all chill, I also make sure to turn most lights off. What also works and making sure V understand what is happening and why. The tyopical "because I said so" just does not work. I make sure to have his attention, explain and ask him to rephrase for me. This way I know if he processed the information or not. That technique has helped us a lot. It is actually unbelievable how many tantrums we've avoided since we do that. The "problem" with all that: it is time consuming and it requires a lot of patience. Somedays, one wants quick and easy... and that does not work. As parents of difficult child, we simply don't have the luxury of quick and easy. That's where respite is so important. Don't blame yourself for the little tap, he will live through it. [/QUOTE]
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