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<blockquote data-quote="buddy" data-source="post: 540918" data-attributes="member: 12886"><p>Hi there and welcome. I would have answered saying most of what everyone else here is saying. I'd also add that in a community like this, we may be less formal because most of us who do post here often already know each other somewhat and for example I have made it very clear that my son is my son first, he is gifted in ways I am not, etc...I love him above everyone else. But once here and sharing to give and receive support, we short hand things, now instead of my son who happens to have a brain injury and autism and attachment disorder, I might say my autistic son etc.... I trust people here already get it, it is the nature of the site. </p><p></p><p>As a long time school professional, I will tell you that what others here have said is right, labels have downsides, but kids, ESPECIALLY kids with behavioral issues are labeled no matter what. Behind closed doors people are saying wow that Robby is the most difficult and mouthy kid I have had in five years or some such thing. Personally, I'd rather have my son labeled as brain injured, and all the rest than just plain rude. </p><p></p><p>I am sorry your experience was that the label was made to be who you are rather than a challenge or condition for you to learn to manage. I hope your experience can help you guide your child to know that many of us have "labels" and in fact everyone could be labeled with something, but but it is who we are as people that is important. It would be ideal if we could do without labels, at this time however, I find on balance that the right label is more beneficial than hurtful. (The wrong label can be life destroying though, so you are right to be cautious). </p><p></p><p>Welcome, I hope if you decide to stay you will see that our objective is to support the parenting journey and to embrace our children....to make life better for us all.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="buddy, post: 540918, member: 12886"] Hi there and welcome. I would have answered saying most of what everyone else here is saying. I'd also add that in a community like this, we may be less formal because most of us who do post here often already know each other somewhat and for example I have made it very clear that my son is my son first, he is gifted in ways I am not, etc...I love him above everyone else. But once here and sharing to give and receive support, we short hand things, now instead of my son who happens to have a brain injury and autism and attachment disorder, I might say my autistic son etc.... I trust people here already get it, it is the nature of the site. As a long time school professional, I will tell you that what others here have said is right, labels have downsides, but kids, ESPECIALLY kids with behavioral issues are labeled no matter what. Behind closed doors people are saying wow that Robby is the most difficult and mouthy kid I have had in five years or some such thing. Personally, I'd rather have my son labeled as brain injured, and all the rest than just plain rude. I am sorry your experience was that the label was made to be who you are rather than a challenge or condition for you to learn to manage. I hope your experience can help you guide your child to know that many of us have "labels" and in fact everyone could be labeled with something, but but it is who we are as people that is important. It would be ideal if we could do without labels, at this time however, I find on balance that the right label is more beneficial than hurtful. (The wrong label can be life destroying though, so you are right to be cautious). Welcome, I hope if you decide to stay you will see that our objective is to support the parenting journey and to embrace our children....to make life better for us all. [/QUOTE]
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