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<blockquote data-quote="Marguerite" data-source="post: 79148" data-attributes="member: 1991"><p>There are so many possibilities Terry, not least of which is, it's just another aspect to hoarding. There may not be anything sexual in this.</p><p></p><p>If it's not hoarding, it could be he wants to wear her underwear because it's more comfortable. I note he "tested negative for Asperger's" and I know people here have said, it's something you don't test negative for unless you test positive for something else instead. But diagnostic criteria here are still highly subjective. I wouldn't rule it out. Also, his behaviour is sounding very Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)/Sensory Integration Disorder (SID). The Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) alone could explain the attracting to a different fabric.</p><p></p><p>I remember buying difficult child 1 some silk boxer shorts. He then proceeded to wear them to death. I'd been lucky and managed to get pure silk ones ($10) and partly, I wanted to see how he went with them considering his Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) issues. There are undies available on the market (advertised by Pat Cash) which are supposed to be really comfortable - seam-free, elastic-free.</p><p></p><p>At some stage you need to talk this over with difficult child. Ask him outright if it's because he is more comfortable in his sister's knickers. Then explain - a teenage girl's knickers are sacred to her, nobody should ever touch them without permission. Girls have a hard enough time in life without having to worry who's getting access to their underwear. If he insists he wants some of his own, try and find a compromise fabric/style. But if he insists it's the frills, the lace and the tight fit at the front (surely he must be uncomfortable with the lack of 'ballroom' if he's wearing his sister's knickers) then - what do you do? Me - I'd buy him his own girl's knickers. Anything like that, to stop him stealing his sister's. And at the same time maybe make discreet enquiries about the possibility of gender dysmorphia.</p><p></p><p>If it's the feel of them you might be able to find a fabric he likes the feel of, and have some undies made for him. The pattern is simple, you might be able to make some yourself. Buying fabric and making up a number of them is easier than hunting for individual pairs of specials here or there.</p><p></p><p>I would definitely talk to his specialist about the hoarding and the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - this needs to be managed. At the moment it's unhealthy, in so many ways.</p><p></p><p>Marg</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Marguerite, post: 79148, member: 1991"] There are so many possibilities Terry, not least of which is, it's just another aspect to hoarding. There may not be anything sexual in this. If it's not hoarding, it could be he wants to wear her underwear because it's more comfortable. I note he "tested negative for Asperger's" and I know people here have said, it's something you don't test negative for unless you test positive for something else instead. But diagnostic criteria here are still highly subjective. I wouldn't rule it out. Also, his behaviour is sounding very Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD)/Sensory Integration Disorder (SID). The Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) alone could explain the attracting to a different fabric. I remember buying difficult child 1 some silk boxer shorts. He then proceeded to wear them to death. I'd been lucky and managed to get pure silk ones ($10) and partly, I wanted to see how he went with them considering his Sensory Integration Disorder (SID) issues. There are undies available on the market (advertised by Pat Cash) which are supposed to be really comfortable - seam-free, elastic-free. At some stage you need to talk this over with difficult child. Ask him outright if it's because he is more comfortable in his sister's knickers. Then explain - a teenage girl's knickers are sacred to her, nobody should ever touch them without permission. Girls have a hard enough time in life without having to worry who's getting access to their underwear. If he insists he wants some of his own, try and find a compromise fabric/style. But if he insists it's the frills, the lace and the tight fit at the front (surely he must be uncomfortable with the lack of 'ballroom' if he's wearing his sister's knickers) then - what do you do? Me - I'd buy him his own girl's knickers. Anything like that, to stop him stealing his sister's. And at the same time maybe make discreet enquiries about the possibility of gender dysmorphia. If it's the feel of them you might be able to find a fabric he likes the feel of, and have some undies made for him. The pattern is simple, you might be able to make some yourself. Buying fabric and making up a number of them is easier than hunting for individual pairs of specials here or there. I would definitely talk to his specialist about the hoarding and the Obsessive Compulsive Disorder (OCD) - this needs to be managed. At the moment it's unhealthy, in so many ways. Marg [/QUOTE]
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