I learned this week that my dad, who undoubtedly has an undx'd personality disorder, has been secretly taping his doctor appointments over the years. As far as I know, this is illegal in our state which requires consent by all parties involved in the communication. He says he does this to help him remember things, but also to prove when the doctor screws up. When I asked him to whom he was thinking of presenting this "proof" (because now he's convinced his latest hospitalization is entirely the fault of one doctor and he's also accusing him privately of falsifying his medical records). At this simple question, my dad became very defensive and irate and proceeded to argue and justify ad nauseum. Finally, he concluded that he wasn't planning to sue anyone, just prove to anyone who doubted his own word that he is right. Yes, this man is suffering from distorted and paranoid thinking. So what do you do when someone you know is violating the law like this? Let karma do its thing and wait for natural consequences to fall out from this (if ever)? On another even more upsetting note, in this same conversation he also told me that it took a variety of doctors he consulted over 8 years to diagnose his bladder cancer (only one doctor got it right). He insists that the typical patient for this type of cancer has four years from onset of symptoms until they are dead. Fortunately, his must not have been a very aggressive form, because he's still here (and when I pointed that out, he dismissed it). What really disturbed me was his statement that had his cancer been found to be terminal, he would not have hesitated to seek out each and every doctor that missed his diagnosis and put a bullet in them. He was dead serious, and very agitated as he told me this. What someone says they WOULD have done versus what they INTEND to do are very different things, but this is still very disturbing to me to hear him say. Another example of his distorted reality. I asked my mother to please, please, please ensure that his guns and ammo are safely out of reach (as he is very ill with respiratory and heart failure, that shouldn't be too hard to do). So do I just sit back and continue to keep myself and my family distanced from this person who happened to father me? I'm more concerned about harming my mother if I were to report any of this to authorities.