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<blockquote data-quote="Hopeful97" data-source="post: 676052" data-attributes="member: 19678"><p>This is really strange. We spent time with Difficult Child 3 different times over Christmas, we took him out for breakfast, gave him rides to both sides of the family celebrations. He was nice and polite, he thanked us for breakfast and the small gift. Dropped him off after everything was over he gave us big hugs and said I Love You which felt good. I reminded him that we will always love him. He had been contacting us sporadically for a few weeks before Christmas - we helped with food a few times.</p><p></p><p>When Difficult Child first left our home in September I had no contact at all for 2 months. After first contact cycle started again (rides, money, food) then the disrespect started - I stopped all contact again. Contact for the holidays. I do not want the cycle to start again and I do not want to enable him anymore so I have stopped all contact again.</p><p></p><p>Difficult Child came to front door hubby gave him a ride. Hubby is at different place in this journey with our Difficult Child, he is very supportive of me and does not want Difficult Child in or at the house either. Anyway, I saw Difficult Child walking up the street with someone. When Difficult Child first left emotions were terrible, then when I would see or talk to him I would get very emotional, upset, nauseous, anxious (you name it) a roller coaster of emotion. </p><p></p><p>When I saw him today I felt nothing, literally nothing. I did not want to see, talk to or hug him. Does this mean I have become an unfeeling mom/person? Does this mean that I am a mom that does not care? Does this mean that I am a terrible mom? I have felt numb before but this was literally nothing.</p><p></p><p>I think there will be times when the emotion will be there - but feeling nothing kind of scares me. Is this successful detattachment? Is this normal? Has this happened to anyone else?</p><p></p><p>Thanks for your feedback.</p><p></p><p>Standing strong, I think.</p><p></p><p>HUGS,</p><p></p><p>Hopeful</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hopeful97, post: 676052, member: 19678"] This is really strange. We spent time with Difficult Child 3 different times over Christmas, we took him out for breakfast, gave him rides to both sides of the family celebrations. He was nice and polite, he thanked us for breakfast and the small gift. Dropped him off after everything was over he gave us big hugs and said I Love You which felt good. I reminded him that we will always love him. He had been contacting us sporadically for a few weeks before Christmas - we helped with food a few times. When Difficult Child first left our home in September I had no contact at all for 2 months. After first contact cycle started again (rides, money, food) then the disrespect started - I stopped all contact again. Contact for the holidays. I do not want the cycle to start again and I do not want to enable him anymore so I have stopped all contact again. Difficult Child came to front door hubby gave him a ride. Hubby is at different place in this journey with our Difficult Child, he is very supportive of me and does not want Difficult Child in or at the house either. Anyway, I saw Difficult Child walking up the street with someone. When Difficult Child first left emotions were terrible, then when I would see or talk to him I would get very emotional, upset, nauseous, anxious (you name it) a roller coaster of emotion. When I saw him today I felt nothing, literally nothing. I did not want to see, talk to or hug him. Does this mean I have become an unfeeling mom/person? Does this mean that I am a mom that does not care? Does this mean that I am a terrible mom? I have felt numb before but this was literally nothing. I think there will be times when the emotion will be there - but feeling nothing kind of scares me. Is this successful detattachment? Is this normal? Has this happened to anyone else? Thanks for your feedback. Standing strong, I think. HUGS, Hopeful [/QUOTE]
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