I am trying to figure out if my expectations are uneasonable or if husband and the kids are being lazy and saying whatever to get me to shut up so they can do what they want. Your opinions would be welcome. House rule is that you check with an adult before baking/project cooking. This means any cooking that is not part of normal meal prep. If husband or I ask a child to make something like brownies or rice krispie cookies, they can be considered 'normal' depending on use of final product. Often he or I will do the dishes for these requested items with no problems, grumping, etc... We are taking the knobs off the stove each night so that jess cannot cook while not fully awake/aware. I posted a couple of weeks ago about her turning on the oven, stove etcc and not being awake/aware and tthe dangers it was presenting. That is working well and is NOT this issue. The house rule started because J would cook and then refuse to do the dishes because she hurt too much, was tired or whatever. She does have limited endurance due to the health issues an this is not faked at least half of the time. But if you make a big mess and then cannot clean it up, and often no one else knows about it or only crumbs are left when husband and thank you would come home after school/work, it isn't fair. Lately rice krispie bars are the treat of choice. I will NOT buy these premade due to cost, additives and the nasty taste of the store bought ones. None of us really lke them and why eat a treat you don't truly enjoy, Know what I mean?? When husband or I give the okay to bake, it means we will go and make sure the cleanup is done and food is put away. husband whines and whines about how much $ is wasted because food is not put away but will NOT put food away with-o making it a big deal and expecting praise as though he just mowed the back 40 acres with a pair of embroidery snips. Seriously, he seems to expect that much praise from sixty seconds of work or less. I refuse to do this - he eats here, he can put food up. He KNOWS he won't get praised, mostly because it won't get him to do it again. This battle was settled for the last time about ten yrs ago when I demanded equal praise and he thought I was being a toddler about it. He did laugh when he realzed that I was only doing what HE did. He is good that way. The follow up is agreed upon by husband and I, and has been agreed on, rehashed every year or two, again agreed on, for years. Lately? No follow through. with-o follow through, the kids don't clean up after the project. I cannot always be there to insist on it. I am in the middle of a long migraine. husband gave the okay for rice krispie treats last night. I found one marshmallowy streaked pan on the stove and went looking. An entire 4 qt saucepan was used as a bowl (cause heaven forbid we wash a real bowl when we want to cook, that would be asking WAY too much) and had half stirred rice krispies hardening in it. I tried to get the wooden spoon out and it snapped in half. It was a cheapie, but still. Where was it? On the living room FLOOR. Seems it was too hard to get it out of the pan, to cover it, to wash the pan, etc... I am LIVID. I did wake her highness up to say "WTH???" and ask if she had the okay from husband. She says she does. which means they are BOTH in trouble with me. How hard is it to fully stir them? Sure, it would be easier if you didn't use the same recipe that you have used that does not really have enough marshmallow to cover the amt of cereal. Gee, four times in two weeks I have said to not use that recipe or to decrease the amt of cereal by 1 cup. I even wrote the dang thing down on teh cereal bag. But it is too hard to make a change like that. I guess it means cutting off the toe you use to count the number of cups or something. Oh, THAT is why she couldn't reduce the cereal. She didn't want to get blood all over the floor from the home amputation procedure!!! She probably didn't get the home amputation kit for recipe correction that has the bandages in it. the nickel-ninety-eight extra would break the bank and we would be homeless. How Thoughtful!!! Can you see that days of migraine with little help from the medications is making me extra sarcastic? Anyway, is it realistic to expect basic cleanup to be done after project cooking? To expect the results to be actually mixed together and put into a pan and covered, and not just left to harden into concrete in a saucepan on the floor??? Am I asking too much? Cause you would think I was demanding home amputation without bandages from the reaction I have been getting. I keep hearing that I am only 'fussing' over this because I have a migraine, not because it is a problem. To hear this from Mr. We-Are-Going-To-Be-Homeless-Because-10-Cents-of-Ketchup-Was-Not-Eaten is making me want to throttle people in their sleep after performing those home amputations.