difficult child is such an interesting case and so all over the map. Last Wednesday we received a phone call from his alternative school-very bad afternoon (apparently someone who isn't usually in the room-another kid-set difficult child off.). He ended up shoving an aide, pushing his teacher, and kicking the director.
Then this morning we received a note from his teacher at his regular school and he had a rough morning becoming fixated on things, unable to let go, ended up swearing and spitting.
Then this afternoon I get this great note from his therapist:
Just a quick update to let you know a few things:
(the first two were just reminders about things)
3.) difficult child has done really well following directions, sharing the agenda with me, being safe, staying in the designated space (waiting room or therapy space), and choosing alternative phrases/questions when it is pointed out that what he is saying is not very appropriate. His last two sessions have been great and he has demonstrated much flexibility and patience during our interactions. I really think the new behavioral system is supportive to these changes!
4.) I notice that insisting he do something (follow a direction, for example) seems to increase his frustration/resistance, yet stating an expectation, offering choices around him completing it, and allowing time for him to do so, has contributed to him following through.
I have noticed some really positive changes the past few weeks!
That's my boy-such a contradiction! I have noticed some interesting improvements recently. He is much nicer with me and tells me he loves me a lot (something I hardly ever get). Yesterday, he actually apologized, on his own, to me for being so rude when I had taken him to the health club-he didn't even argue about the consequence or try to get out of it!! Then, of course, he has some major setbacks. Also his anxiety seems like it is at an all time high. He really wants husband or me with him 24/7 and that means in the same room with him-if not he will call us constantly.
So hard to tell what is actual progress (but I am enjoying the good moments I get).
Then this morning we received a note from his teacher at his regular school and he had a rough morning becoming fixated on things, unable to let go, ended up swearing and spitting.
Then this afternoon I get this great note from his therapist:
Just a quick update to let you know a few things:
(the first two were just reminders about things)
3.) difficult child has done really well following directions, sharing the agenda with me, being safe, staying in the designated space (waiting room or therapy space), and choosing alternative phrases/questions when it is pointed out that what he is saying is not very appropriate. His last two sessions have been great and he has demonstrated much flexibility and patience during our interactions. I really think the new behavioral system is supportive to these changes!
4.) I notice that insisting he do something (follow a direction, for example) seems to increase his frustration/resistance, yet stating an expectation, offering choices around him completing it, and allowing time for him to do so, has contributed to him following through.
I have noticed some really positive changes the past few weeks!
That's my boy-such a contradiction! I have noticed some interesting improvements recently. He is much nicer with me and tells me he loves me a lot (something I hardly ever get). Yesterday, he actually apologized, on his own, to me for being so rude when I had taken him to the health club-he didn't even argue about the consequence or try to get out of it!! Then, of course, he has some major setbacks. Also his anxiety seems like it is at an all time high. He really wants husband or me with him 24/7 and that means in the same room with him-if not he will call us constantly.
So hard to tell what is actual progress (but I am enjoying the good moments I get).