Up to my eyeballs in pee

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by Step-MomTroubles, Dec 13, 2015.

  1. Step-MomTroubles

    Step-MomTroubles New Member

    My step-son has never been diagnosed with a disorder, but maybe someone here can help guide me.

    I believe he fits in somewhere on the Autism spectrum. Urination problems are very common for that group, but his behavior seems to be more associated with conduct disorder. His urine trouble used to be involuntary. Now intentional and repeated voluntary peeing on dirty laundry, carpet and mattress in his own bedroom is an ongoing battle. For a while he was peeing in bottles and hoarding them. He alternates between different 'tricks' for urinating in inappropriate places. This seems to mainly be a lack of consideration of others and the consequences of his decisions.
  2. InsaneCdn

    InsaneCdn Well-Known Member

    Hi, and welcome.

    He is SIXTEEN?
    What were the first few years of his life like - both from the aspect of his development and behavior, and from the aspect of what life was actually like - stable? abuse? neglect? bounced around a lot?

    What other kinds of conduct issues are you seeing?
  3. SomewhereOutThere

    SomewhereOutThere Well-Known Member

    Has he ever been seen by a doctor about this? There are medications that can help.

    I have an autistic spectrum son...this was not a symptom he had, but all kids are different.

    I think he would benefit, besides a urologist, from a complete neuropsychologist evaluation or an evaluation of many specialists together, a group of them, to see what is wrong. That is way not the norm for somebody his age.

    Good luck!
  4. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    I'm a stepmom as well to a kid who had urination "issues" for years. Honestly, it's only been about 4 years since he wet himself (that I know of) - he's now 17.

    I agree that he would benefit from a neuropsychologist workup. And... It might help to know some back story.
  5. NC Momma

    NC Momma New Member

    Hello there! Can I ask why he has never been diagnosed? Does a doctor say there is nothing wrong? If so, I would strongly suggest visiting another doctor. As your gut is telling you, this is not normal behavior at all for a 16 year old. At the very least, if he does not have autism, I would venture to guess that he has at least an anxiety/depression problem. If not autistic, my first thoughts are that this is a way of lashing out for lack of coping skills. I know this sounds like a simple answer but a frustrated adolescent that is dealing with unresolved issues of anxiety or depression from whatever reasons that caused it can lash out in a variety of ways. I know this goes off what you are wanting answered but I am just really curious as to what the doctor has told you?