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<blockquote data-quote="janebrain" data-source="post: 192964" data-attributes="member: 3208"><p>Bran,</p><p>you can make her life so miserable when she is 18 that she will want to leave on her own. You are only required to provide the bare minimum and you can have as many rules as you like--curfew, etc. According to NY law she can leave if she wants, you just can't kick her out--and even that isn't strictly true. You can kick her out but the state may come to you for child support if she seeks social services. It may be worth it to you to go that route--you would be providing for her financially but she would have to follow Dept. of Social Services rules in order to get their benefits. </p><p></p><p>I would say do not allow her to hold you hostage. Let her go when she is 18--either make her miserable enough to leave on her own or kick her out, knowing she may seek services from the state and they will want you to pay for them. In our case, our dtr. gave up on the social services dept--they were going to require her to get a job and follow their rules and be drug tested. She didn't want any of that. CALL HER BLUFF!</p><p></p><p>Hugs,</p><p>Jane</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="janebrain, post: 192964, member: 3208"] Bran, you can make her life so miserable when she is 18 that she will want to leave on her own. You are only required to provide the bare minimum and you can have as many rules as you like--curfew, etc. According to NY law she can leave if she wants, you just can't kick her out--and even that isn't strictly true. You can kick her out but the state may come to you for child support if she seeks social services. It may be worth it to you to go that route--you would be providing for her financially but she would have to follow Dept. of Social Services rules in order to get their benefits. I would say do not allow her to hold you hostage. Let her go when she is 18--either make her miserable enough to leave on her own or kick her out, knowing she may seek services from the state and they will want you to pay for them. In our case, our dtr. gave up on the social services dept--they were going to require her to get a job and follow their rules and be drug tested. She didn't want any of that. CALL HER BLUFF! Hugs, Jane [/QUOTE]
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