The director delegated the paperwork issue about direct release in lieu of parole and the move stuff to difficult child's CM in Department of Juvenile Justice. She called the PO to coordinate. The parole officer said he can't sendd the stuff to HI until I had an address out there- we already knew that was an option but apparently he failed to mention to her the other option of difficult child being released to me here, then us moving together, then him transferring the paperwork. Anyway, I discussed that weith her and she said that if we do it that way, they don't have paperwork to justify asking the Department of Juvenile Justice committee for an early rellease- so that just puts the issue going around in circles because I told her, I can''t arrange housing and flight tickets until I know when/if difficult child is going. Then, as far as direct release or parole- she said she told the PO she would work with him and his decision because it's technically up to him. He apparently talked with his super and the super said it's court ordered for difficult child to go to parole so they can't change that without going before the judge. Well, didn't I say that the other day? And, they (the PO staff) are recommending difficult child stay on parole "in order to monitor him because his last offense was becoming aggressive with me". Well, HELLO, he was on probation and being monitored when he did that so how do you figure that prevents anything? She said it wasn't in her control - it's up to the PO. I said I know, but the PO has told me that he is going to do what the Department of Juvenile Justice people recommend so are they actually recommending direct release? She said something wishy-washy then said "if it gets to that point, she, her super, the PO, and his super, will have a conference call and make a determiniation for recommendation either for parole or direct release". So, I asked if they can do that now so if it's parole, I won't pursue it but if it's direct release, I can get it before the judge and see if she will approve that based on that recommendation? She said no she can't initiate that, I would need to call PO and discuss it with him. Well, he won't initiate anything unless he has a strong recommendation from Department of Juvenile Justice. I swear I have never seen so many people avoiding taking a leadership position and just doging responsibility in all my life. This will do nothing but continue to go in circles. She is recommending that I go to HI before difficult child's release then asking PO if he'll pick up difficult child and put him on a plane when difficult child is released so I don't have to come back and get him. I would bet my left arm that there is no way the PO is going to take personal responsibility for that and that the county would never allow it. I would call PO as she suggested but based on my previous conversations with him, he just goes aroound in circles too and says he can't even tell me what the parole requirements will be until he finds out what Department of Juvenile Justice recommends. I told it is no wonder that some parents throw their arms up in the air and walk off- but it wasn't because they didn't love their kid. I told her I might as well quit trying to make this job in HI work but that I absolutely hated this county CSU and obviously they didn't know how to help my son or he wouldn't have ended up in the state Department of Juvenile Justice to begin with. I told her I didn't know what I was going to do. We discussed a group home option briefly. She sympathized with me then said something like the ball was in my court. I really don';t see how they figure that.