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UPDATE: difficult child is in psychiatric hospital....my worst nightmare
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<blockquote data-quote="klmno" data-source="post: 145651" data-attributes="member: 3699"><p>I am so sorry that you feel this pain and that you have to go through this. It is clear that you are blaming yourself and want to "save" your child from all of this. Actually, I think it is probably a good thing that she is letting all this come out while she is in a "safe place" and it will give the doctors the most information to help her. So, let's just think this through-</p><p></p><p>Ok, first things first. One- you are not failing her , you're doing your best to help her. Second, she can be a healthy, happy child, she just isn't right now, and you are doing everything you can to give her that best shot- it is not being in the psychiatric hospital that made her unhappy- she is in there because she wasn't emotionally healthy; thirdly, right now, she can't be the child that you are used to, but the treatment will help that personality return, albeit it might be a little different, you should be able to see a lot of "her old self" once she is stabilized; fourthly, she is becoming a pre-adolescent and we, as parents, seem to realize, and have to realize about this time, that we can no longer answer all those questions and meet every single need that our child has anymore- what we can do is make sure that those answers and solutions are provided by someone else who is appropriate- that is what you are doing. It is hard and I feel your pain- it does bring back the memories of how very difficult this is- but let your "mommy" gut feelings come through here and hang in there- I honestly believe that you are doing what is best for your child. She will forgive you. She will come to understand. But most of all, you didn't fail her- you have saved her from the worst nightmare that many parents have had to face and that many parents wish that they could have ended up in your shoes right now.</p><p></p><p>The husband part of this- I don't know and can't respond. I can only hope for you that he steps up to the plate. You nor your daughter need anyone around who isn't part of the solution right now. Neither of you need criticism, that is for sure.</p><p></p><p>I wish I knew the right thing to say- I really want to help relieve your pain because I know how much it hurt when I had to go through this with my son. Looking back on it, I can only think and say that I honestly don't believe he would be here if those steps hadn't been taken. It is still hard, but there is a hope here that wasn't here before.</p><p></p><p>Right now,, this seems like the "worst" for you- there will come a day, I truly believe, when you might see this as what saved her, not what was the worst day in the world.</p><p></p><p>Keep posting-</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="klmno, post: 145651, member: 3699"] I am so sorry that you feel this pain and that you have to go through this. It is clear that you are blaming yourself and want to "save" your child from all of this. Actually, I think it is probably a good thing that she is letting all this come out while she is in a "safe place" and it will give the doctors the most information to help her. So, let's just think this through- Ok, first things first. One- you are not failing her , you're doing your best to help her. Second, she can be a healthy, happy child, she just isn't right now, and you are doing everything you can to give her that best shot- it is not being in the psychiatric hospital that made her unhappy- she is in there because she wasn't emotionally healthy; thirdly, right now, she can't be the child that you are used to, but the treatment will help that personality return, albeit it might be a little different, you should be able to see a lot of "her old self" once she is stabilized; fourthly, she is becoming a pre-adolescent and we, as parents, seem to realize, and have to realize about this time, that we can no longer answer all those questions and meet every single need that our child has anymore- what we can do is make sure that those answers and solutions are provided by someone else who is appropriate- that is what you are doing. It is hard and I feel your pain- it does bring back the memories of how very difficult this is- but let your "mommy" gut feelings come through here and hang in there- I honestly believe that you are doing what is best for your child. She will forgive you. She will come to understand. But most of all, you didn't fail her- you have saved her from the worst nightmare that many parents have had to face and that many parents wish that they could have ended up in your shoes right now. The husband part of this- I don't know and can't respond. I can only hope for you that he steps up to the plate. You nor your daughter need anyone around who isn't part of the solution right now. Neither of you need criticism, that is for sure. I wish I knew the right thing to say- I really want to help relieve your pain because I know how much it hurt when I had to go through this with my son. Looking back on it, I can only think and say that I honestly don't believe he would be here if those steps hadn't been taken. It is still hard, but there is a hope here that wasn't here before. Right now,, this seems like the "worst" for you- there will come a day, I truly believe, when you might see this as what saved her, not what was the worst day in the world. Keep posting- [/QUOTE]
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