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<blockquote data-quote="flutterbee" data-source="post: 84972"><p>I scanned through the replies, but didn't read word for word, so I apologize if I'm repeating things.</p><p></p><p>I thought of a couple of things. Empty nest, which has been mentioned. We spend so much time raising kids - especially a difficult child - that we don't have much time for ourselves. I hate when someone asks me what my hobbies are. I always feel like I should make something up. By the time I work, clean and take care of the kids I don't have the time, energy nor the money to take on something I would really enjoy doing...once I figure out what THAT is. </p><p></p><p>Another thing, raising a difficult child is stressful. Even though difficult child is causing the stress, they also distract us from really dealing with it. We don't have time to be stressed, IOW, but it doesn't go away. It's still there and still needs to be dealt with. Now that it's not in your face everyday, it's demanding to be dealt with. I'm not away from difficult child long enough ever to really experience it. However, when easy child was so depressed I can remember looking so forward to him going to his dad's or to my mom's, but when he left I just fell apart. I couldn't do that when he was here; I had to be strong and take care of him. But once he was gone...that big sigh of relief I was hoping for didn't happen until I dealt with the pent up stress, Know what I mean?? Plus, you had a really big stressor (was it last week?) with difficult child thinking she might be pregnant. </p><p></p><p>I'd say to listen to your body and give it what it needs. Take some time to figure out what kinds of things you enjoy. It doesn't have to happen overnight. It's a process.</p><p></p><p>(((hugs)))</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="flutterbee, post: 84972"] I scanned through the replies, but didn't read word for word, so I apologize if I'm repeating things. I thought of a couple of things. Empty nest, which has been mentioned. We spend so much time raising kids - especially a difficult child - that we don't have much time for ourselves. I hate when someone asks me what my hobbies are. I always feel like I should make something up. By the time I work, clean and take care of the kids I don't have the time, energy nor the money to take on something I would really enjoy doing...once I figure out what THAT is. Another thing, raising a difficult child is stressful. Even though difficult child is causing the stress, they also distract us from really dealing with it. We don't have time to be stressed, IOW, but it doesn't go away. It's still there and still needs to be dealt with. Now that it's not in your face everyday, it's demanding to be dealt with. I'm not away from difficult child long enough ever to really experience it. However, when easy child was so depressed I can remember looking so forward to him going to his dad's or to my mom's, but when he left I just fell apart. I couldn't do that when he was here; I had to be strong and take care of him. But once he was gone...that big sigh of relief I was hoping for didn't happen until I dealt with the pent up stress, Know what I mean?? Plus, you had a really big stressor (was it last week?) with difficult child thinking she might be pregnant. I'd say to listen to your body and give it what it needs. Take some time to figure out what kinds of things you enjoy. It doesn't have to happen overnight. It's a process. (((hugs))) [/QUOTE]
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