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<blockquote data-quote="AmericanGirl" data-source="post: 539036"><p>Personally. I have learned I cannot save him from himself. Checking up on him all the time only drives me batty. And (if you read my latest post about his 'daughter'), you don't even know if what you learn is the truth or one of the lies they tell all the time.</p><p></p><p>Please know I have stood in your shoes and say this with the utmost kindness...maybe you are getting a 'fix' by calling him. You said "hear that he sounds okay". Does it REALLY mean he is okay?</p><p></p><p>I've worked towards weaning myself from that. It's a process but I am much much happier now. Every time I hung up, either he said the right things and I felt better (got my "fix") or he didn't and I fretted (got a "bad trip"). Even if I got the "fix", it didn't last long.</p><p></p><p>Plus, if you back off, then his support system is slightly further away. It may cause him to contact you more. That's what happened with mine.</p><p></p><p>Just my two cents...</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="AmericanGirl, post: 539036"] Personally. I have learned I cannot save him from himself. Checking up on him all the time only drives me batty. And (if you read my latest post about his 'daughter'), you don't even know if what you learn is the truth or one of the lies they tell all the time. Please know I have stood in your shoes and say this with the utmost kindness...maybe you are getting a 'fix' by calling him. You said "hear that he sounds okay". Does it REALLY mean he is okay? I've worked towards weaning myself from that. It's a process but I am much much happier now. Every time I hung up, either he said the right things and I felt better (got my "fix") or he didn't and I fretted (got a "bad trip"). Even if I got the "fix", it didn't last long. Plus, if you back off, then his support system is slightly further away. It may cause him to contact you more. That's what happened with mine. Just my two cents... [/QUOTE]
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