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Update of a bone-weary step-parent
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<blockquote data-quote="Childofmine" data-source="post: 649452" data-attributes="member: 17542"><p>Have you and your husband gone to counseling? Would he go? Perhaps some outside perspective would help. I just reread your signature and saw that she is 21. Even a easy child under the same roof at that age isn't a good scenario---it's my view that our adult children don't need to be living with us at all. </p><p></p><p>Anyway, I digress. I completely get what you are saying. You must have a say-so in your own home about what goes on there. </p><p></p><p>I also am sure he is struggling with it all and does feel like he is in a triangle...unfortunately, you're the one who gets the brunt of his angst. </p><p></p><p>I do know this: addiction affects everybody in the family. Nobody gets away from it. So you both have been caught up in his family disease, and you are both suffering because of it.</p><p></p><p>I would hate to see you and he turn on each other, instead of finding a way to get help to navigate through this.</p><p></p><p>It is a blessing that she is going to be living somewhere else, at least for now. </p><p></p><p>Would he be willing to read this forum? Go to an Al-Anon meeting? Take in some new information.</p><p></p><p>If he won't, I hope you will. </p><p></p><p>Warm hugs tonight. I wish I had some good answers. Just please know we are here for you and with you. You're not alone.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Childofmine, post: 649452, member: 17542"] Have you and your husband gone to counseling? Would he go? Perhaps some outside perspective would help. I just reread your signature and saw that she is 21. Even a easy child under the same roof at that age isn't a good scenario---it's my view that our adult children don't need to be living with us at all. Anyway, I digress. I completely get what you are saying. You must have a say-so in your own home about what goes on there. I also am sure he is struggling with it all and does feel like he is in a triangle...unfortunately, you're the one who gets the brunt of his angst. I do know this: addiction affects everybody in the family. Nobody gets away from it. So you both have been caught up in his family disease, and you are both suffering because of it. I would hate to see you and he turn on each other, instead of finding a way to get help to navigate through this. It is a blessing that she is going to be living somewhere else, at least for now. Would he be willing to read this forum? Go to an Al-Anon meeting? Take in some new information. If he won't, I hope you will. Warm hugs tonight. I wish I had some good answers. Just please know we are here for you and with you. You're not alone. [/QUOTE]
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