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<blockquote data-quote="Hound dog" data-source="post: 144565" data-attributes="member: 84"><p>MB</p><p> </p><p>I'd like to offer a bit of input here, I dunno if it will help or not. But the above quote reminded me of myself and my mother when I was still in my 20's. Now I was a difficult child, but not really a huge deal with it by then.</p><p> </p><p>I understand what you're daughter is saying because I also said it to my Mom. And I didn't mean it to hurt, honestly I didn't. At that age I was dead set on making my own decisions. Period. Good or bad. I thought as an "adult" I shouldn't have to listen to what I liked to call "flak" from my Mom. After all it was <strong>my</strong> life, right? So if I was doing things (not necessarily bad things) I didn't think she'd approve of, I put off contact because I didn't want to hear it.</p><p> </p><p>Twenty years later I know what pain and worry I caused her. But that was never my intention. In my own way I was attempting to find my identity as an adult. And being that age I thought I had all of the answers and had a nasty habit of learning life lessons the hard way.</p><p> </p><p>As I matured, though, I slowly grew to develop an adult relationship with my Mom. Which is good since we had a horrible one when I was growing up. And as I matured I just sort of drifted back to her. We're not buddy buddies, but it is a caring relationship with respect.</p><p> </p><p>The situation might not be the same. But in your daughter's case it might not be too far off. So maybe as she matures and gets some life lessons under her belt she'll begin to drift back, too.</p><p> </p><p>I'm so sorry that it hurts so much.</p><p> </p><p>Hugs</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Hound dog, post: 144565, member: 84"] MB I'd like to offer a bit of input here, I dunno if it will help or not. But the above quote reminded me of myself and my mother when I was still in my 20's. Now I was a difficult child, but not really a huge deal with it by then. I understand what you're daughter is saying because I also said it to my Mom. And I didn't mean it to hurt, honestly I didn't. At that age I was dead set on making my own decisions. Period. Good or bad. I thought as an "adult" I shouldn't have to listen to what I liked to call "flak" from my Mom. After all it was [B]my[/B] life, right? So if I was doing things (not necessarily bad things) I didn't think she'd approve of, I put off contact because I didn't want to hear it. Twenty years later I know what pain and worry I caused her. But that was never my intention. In my own way I was attempting to find my identity as an adult. And being that age I thought I had all of the answers and had a nasty habit of learning life lessons the hard way. As I matured, though, I slowly grew to develop an adult relationship with my Mom. Which is good since we had a horrible one when I was growing up. And as I matured I just sort of drifted back to her. We're not buddy buddies, but it is a caring relationship with respect. The situation might not be the same. But in your daughter's case it might not be too far off. So maybe as she matures and gets some life lessons under her belt she'll begin to drift back, too. I'm so sorry that it hurts so much. Hugs [/QUOTE]
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