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Update on difficult child -- both bad and good (long, sorry!)
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<blockquote data-quote="Nomad" data-source="post: 259661"><p>I haven't read all the posts...but I saw you say this "grow up child, it is time." Well, that sounds pretty good to me. And I saw you say that the others think he might be depressed. Perhaps this is a possibility. So, you might want to have him visit the doctor and you might pay for the visit. </p><p> </p><p>I would NOT let him come back into the home. I would encourage him to keep the pt job and tell him he is very lucky to have any job and that someone his age REALLY should be working full time and its almost shameful that he isn't. However, if he has part time work and does a good job, that is a very good thing. </p><p> </p><p>He can use the extra time to work on his depression. He can go to therapy, etc. If therapy is too expensive, he can read books, can't he? Can he talk to a religious person who he admires? Perhaps someone like this might offer words of wisdom. </p><p> </p><p>Stay the course and do not let him return to your home. </p><p> </p><p>Also, considering letting someone else do the "heavy lifting" with reference to advice. You can put your foot down about some things...like not returning to home and offer some gentle advice about keeping the job. I would let someone else give him the "straight talk" about the facts of life (Like facing the real world and understanding that he wont have a girlfriend much longer the way he is going).</p><p> </p><p>Protect yourself. Take GOOD care of your health and be happy. Enjoy your freedom. Enjoy your spouse.</p><p> </p><p>Be happy and be well.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nomad, post: 259661"] I haven't read all the posts...but I saw you say this "grow up child, it is time." Well, that sounds pretty good to me. And I saw you say that the others think he might be depressed. Perhaps this is a possibility. So, you might want to have him visit the doctor and you might pay for the visit. I would NOT let him come back into the home. I would encourage him to keep the pt job and tell him he is very lucky to have any job and that someone his age REALLY should be working full time and its almost shameful that he isn't. However, if he has part time work and does a good job, that is a very good thing. He can use the extra time to work on his depression. He can go to therapy, etc. If therapy is too expensive, he can read books, can't he? Can he talk to a religious person who he admires? Perhaps someone like this might offer words of wisdom. Stay the course and do not let him return to your home. Also, considering letting someone else do the "heavy lifting" with reference to advice. You can put your foot down about some things...like not returning to home and offer some gentle advice about keeping the job. I would let someone else give him the "straight talk" about the facts of life (Like facing the real world and understanding that he wont have a girlfriend much longer the way he is going). Protect yourself. Take GOOD care of your health and be happy. Enjoy your freedom. Enjoy your spouse. Be happy and be well. [/QUOTE]
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