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<blockquote data-quote="susiestar" data-source="post: 387348" data-attributes="member: 1233"><p>The lease itself may have clauses about this. Take it, and difficult child, to an attorney. If nothing else the attorney can let difficult child know what will happen if he walks away from this place, leaving girlfriend with it. Likely she will either run back to Mommy or just move in Mommy and a bunch of cats and not pay the rent. I would tell difficult child that if he wants to leave the place you want notice so you can go and get your furniture. Heck, you might ask difficult child if this female is destroying the stuff. I imagine that if he could function with-o the furniture for a week or three, and you go and move it out of there regardless of what she wants, she will run back to Mommy because she will have no couch/bed/tv/whatever. Then you can let difficult child have the stuff back for as long as she is gone. That is, IF he truly wants her gone. </p><p> </p><p>I don't think you need to "evict" her to take the furniture back. Just make a private arrangement with difficult child so that he does NOT hurt her, can sleep on an air mattress or sleeping bag or whatever until she leaves, and that he does NOT walk away with-o paying just to get her out. </p><p> </p><p>A lot will depend on if he REALLY wants her out and wants to stay there with-o her. </p><p> </p><p>The way he is behaving is AWESOME!! Esp knowing what was happening with his illness and going back on medications by his own request. THAT is a sign that he is really maturing well!!!</p><p> </p><p>Is she superstitious? Could he start chanting in Latin or whatever and scare her out? Maybe not the nicest thing, but she sounds AWFUL and it might be worth it. I made up some fake "voodoo" chants and "ceremonies" when we had a neighbor downstairs who was a drug dealer. The cops refused to do anything about him, and the apartment manager was afraid of him, but he and his girlfriend ended up with a healthy respect for ME. Esp after they saw my mother and I dancing and chanting (I FINALLY used my high school Latin - we said all KINDS of idiotic things that sounded "foreign" and "scary" to these people. After that the pair of them carried crosses up in front of their faces if they had to walk past me, LOLOL! </p><p> </p><p>Is he willing and able to afford the place on his own? Will he need help, and are you and your husband able and willing to help him with that after she is gone? If he just moves out, she could stay there and hold him liable for the rent for the entire term of the lease. If she walks away or is evicted, he will be liable for the entire rent amount. If he forces her to pay the $$ he likely cannot keep her from living there. If he sues her for the $$ it is likely that she could refuse to leave.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="susiestar, post: 387348, member: 1233"] The lease itself may have clauses about this. Take it, and difficult child, to an attorney. If nothing else the attorney can let difficult child know what will happen if he walks away from this place, leaving girlfriend with it. Likely she will either run back to Mommy or just move in Mommy and a bunch of cats and not pay the rent. I would tell difficult child that if he wants to leave the place you want notice so you can go and get your furniture. Heck, you might ask difficult child if this female is destroying the stuff. I imagine that if he could function with-o the furniture for a week or three, and you go and move it out of there regardless of what she wants, she will run back to Mommy because she will have no couch/bed/tv/whatever. Then you can let difficult child have the stuff back for as long as she is gone. That is, IF he truly wants her gone. I don't think you need to "evict" her to take the furniture back. Just make a private arrangement with difficult child so that he does NOT hurt her, can sleep on an air mattress or sleeping bag or whatever until she leaves, and that he does NOT walk away with-o paying just to get her out. A lot will depend on if he REALLY wants her out and wants to stay there with-o her. The way he is behaving is AWESOME!! Esp knowing what was happening with his illness and going back on medications by his own request. THAT is a sign that he is really maturing well!!! Is she superstitious? Could he start chanting in Latin or whatever and scare her out? Maybe not the nicest thing, but she sounds AWFUL and it might be worth it. I made up some fake "voodoo" chants and "ceremonies" when we had a neighbor downstairs who was a drug dealer. The cops refused to do anything about him, and the apartment manager was afraid of him, but he and his girlfriend ended up with a healthy respect for ME. Esp after they saw my mother and I dancing and chanting (I FINALLY used my high school Latin - we said all KINDS of idiotic things that sounded "foreign" and "scary" to these people. After that the pair of them carried crosses up in front of their faces if they had to walk past me, LOLOL! Is he willing and able to afford the place on his own? Will he need help, and are you and your husband able and willing to help him with that after she is gone? If he just moves out, she could stay there and hold him liable for the rent for the entire term of the lease. If she walks away or is evicted, he will be liable for the entire rent amount. If he forces her to pay the $$ he likely cannot keep her from living there. If he sues her for the $$ it is likely that she could refuse to leave. [/QUOTE]
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