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Update on difficult child -we are in Colorado and it just went pear-shaped...
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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 598996" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>Blackgnat - You're doing well. I'm so proud of you for coming home and making him stay there with the opportunity for a fresh start. That's what it is right? An opportunity for him. He can open that door or close it. He can walk through the door or not. It's his choice. You can't make it for him. </p><p></p><p>While you were there you did everything possible to set him up with social service help so he knows where to turn. He knows where to go to get his medication, he knows he has options. Ex has given him a bus pass and a temporary place to stay. He has every opportunity at his feet right now he just has to take it. </p><p></p><p>I don't blame ex for giving him a very short period of time to get the ball rolling. The longer the time, the longer difficult child will take. Many people will only perform under a deadline and I'm guessing that is what your ex is hoping for. </p><p></p><p>I also don't blame you for not changing your phone number. Don't answer every one of his calls though. Talk to him once a day or 3 x a week, not every time he calls. That way he'll have to start thinking for himself, making decisions for himself, working things out for himself. He can do it, he just doesn't know it yet. </p><p></p><p>Read that post that was posted on getting through a crisis - lots of good lines to use on difficult child's in there that gets them to start taking responsibility for themselves and lets them know you love and support them too. </p><p></p><p>Hugs to you. You're doing a great job! Hang in there. This could take some time.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 598996, member: 14356"] Blackgnat - You're doing well. I'm so proud of you for coming home and making him stay there with the opportunity for a fresh start. That's what it is right? An opportunity for him. He can open that door or close it. He can walk through the door or not. It's his choice. You can't make it for him. While you were there you did everything possible to set him up with social service help so he knows where to turn. He knows where to go to get his medication, he knows he has options. Ex has given him a bus pass and a temporary place to stay. He has every opportunity at his feet right now he just has to take it. I don't blame ex for giving him a very short period of time to get the ball rolling. The longer the time, the longer difficult child will take. Many people will only perform under a deadline and I'm guessing that is what your ex is hoping for. I also don't blame you for not changing your phone number. Don't answer every one of his calls though. Talk to him once a day or 3 x a week, not every time he calls. That way he'll have to start thinking for himself, making decisions for himself, working things out for himself. He can do it, he just doesn't know it yet. Read that post that was posted on getting through a crisis - lots of good lines to use on difficult child's in there that gets them to start taking responsibility for themselves and lets them know you love and support them too. Hugs to you. You're doing a great job! Hang in there. This could take some time. [/QUOTE]
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