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Update on difficult child -we are in Colorado and it just went pear-shaped...
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<blockquote data-quote="blackgnat" data-source="post: 600262" data-attributes="member: 13561"><p>Thank you so much for your wonderful and supportive replies.</p><p></p><p>I went to my therapist today and while I was there he called 3 times in quick succession. I ignored it and when I left her office, I did what so many others have told me to do...I changed my phone number.</p><p></p><p>I cannot tell you how wretched I feel. I know I am still very sick because I feel heartbroken, that I've abandoned him and this change of number will NEVER feel right.</p><p></p><p>The concensus from those in the know-i.e. everyone on this board, plus many supportive and long-suffering friends, is that this was a necessary action. The therapist says I have a lot of logical thoughts mixed up with irrational ones. She says he wants me to solve the problems for him and that someone in this unhealthy set up has to be as well as possible and it needs to be me. She says that he NEEDS this limit. My best friend says that I am crippling him if I don't sever the ties.</p><p></p><p>I see everyone's point. The fact that he is already drinking, not even out of his father's house for 12 hours, just leads me to believe he'll never make it unless he gets to the points where he already sank to here in Illinois-jail, ERs, detoxes, rehabs, park benches where he got his nose broken, etc.</p><p></p><p>It's that expression, "Wherever you go, there you are". </p><p></p><p>I just feel so broken. It feels like he will be wanting to talk and I won't be there. But you know, I had NOTHING to add to what I've already said a trillion times. If he hates me for doing this, so be it. It wouldn't be the first time that he has expressed that feeling to me. And shown it by hitting me, threatening me, stealing from me, destroying property.</p><p>Sorry for rambling. But it does help to look at what has actually happened in the past, without me putting my hugely unhealthy spin on things...</p><p></p><p></p><p> Thanks for supporting me through this process. It's going to be SUCH a long road, but if I don't make moves to take myself out of the equation, I will be trapped in this horror forever. And I truly believe that it'll kill me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="blackgnat, post: 600262, member: 13561"] Thank you so much for your wonderful and supportive replies. I went to my therapist today and while I was there he called 3 times in quick succession. I ignored it and when I left her office, I did what so many others have told me to do...I changed my phone number. I cannot tell you how wretched I feel. I know I am still very sick because I feel heartbroken, that I've abandoned him and this change of number will NEVER feel right. The concensus from those in the know-i.e. everyone on this board, plus many supportive and long-suffering friends, is that this was a necessary action. The therapist says I have a lot of logical thoughts mixed up with irrational ones. She says he wants me to solve the problems for him and that someone in this unhealthy set up has to be as well as possible and it needs to be me. She says that he NEEDS this limit. My best friend says that I am crippling him if I don't sever the ties. I see everyone's point. The fact that he is already drinking, not even out of his father's house for 12 hours, just leads me to believe he'll never make it unless he gets to the points where he already sank to here in Illinois-jail, ERs, detoxes, rehabs, park benches where he got his nose broken, etc. It's that expression, "Wherever you go, there you are". I just feel so broken. It feels like he will be wanting to talk and I won't be there. But you know, I had NOTHING to add to what I've already said a trillion times. If he hates me for doing this, so be it. It wouldn't be the first time that he has expressed that feeling to me. And shown it by hitting me, threatening me, stealing from me, destroying property. Sorry for rambling. But it does help to look at what has actually happened in the past, without me putting my hugely unhealthy spin on things... Thanks for supporting me through this process. It's going to be SUCH a long road, but if I don't make moves to take myself out of the equation, I will be trapped in this horror forever. And I truly believe that it'll kill me. [/QUOTE]
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