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Update on difficult child - wish I had something good to report.....
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<blockquote data-quote="welcometowitsend" data-source="post: 560698" data-attributes="member: 14356"><p>Thank you all for your replies. Suzir - some very good advice on when to help and how much. I will do some thinking on that for sure. I like the coaching idea and that was something I offered to do with him. Coach him on how to organize himself so he can remember to do things, get to work on time, that kind of thing. As far as financial we will be very stingy for sure. I completely agree that if we make this too easy on him he won't learn a thing. He has a very strong sense of entitlement. I remember him saying to me a few months ago that if he chose to do nothing with his life and didn't earn his own living as an adult that it would be my responsibility to pay his way and look after him. ha!! </p><p></p><p>Terry - he does sound like he's on drugs but he's had 3 drugs tests and they all came back negative. He was given a drug test on the day he was admitted to the psychiatric ward. At least that is a positive in all of this - so far he has tested negative for drugs. Of course if it was drugs it would certainly explain the behaviour.</p><p></p><p>Maybe I'll take my mom out for lunch after her dr.'s appointment on Friday and we can get mani/pedi's. Something relaxing and enjoyable - she is stressed too. Thank you for that advice Terry! I'm gladly taking it! Mom has developed heart troubles and has to go in to have her heart shocked to try to get it back into a normal rhythm. All this stress with difficult child is hard on her too - my parents were the ultimate grandparents to my kids - amazing grandparents and this is very hard on them to see him going in this direction. </p><p></p><p>Thanks again! It helps so much to know that people are there who understand where I'm coming from. My friends son is just a few months older than difficult child. Is getting ready to graduate this year, going off to college, just saved enough money to buy his own car. Such a contrast to my own child. Sigh..... I just keep reminding myself that he can accomplish all of these thing later in life if he chooses to turn things around for himself.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="welcometowitsend, post: 560698, member: 14356"] Thank you all for your replies. Suzir - some very good advice on when to help and how much. I will do some thinking on that for sure. I like the coaching idea and that was something I offered to do with him. Coach him on how to organize himself so he can remember to do things, get to work on time, that kind of thing. As far as financial we will be very stingy for sure. I completely agree that if we make this too easy on him he won't learn a thing. He has a very strong sense of entitlement. I remember him saying to me a few months ago that if he chose to do nothing with his life and didn't earn his own living as an adult that it would be my responsibility to pay his way and look after him. ha!! Terry - he does sound like he's on drugs but he's had 3 drugs tests and they all came back negative. He was given a drug test on the day he was admitted to the psychiatric ward. At least that is a positive in all of this - so far he has tested negative for drugs. Of course if it was drugs it would certainly explain the behaviour. Maybe I'll take my mom out for lunch after her dr.'s appointment on Friday and we can get mani/pedi's. Something relaxing and enjoyable - she is stressed too. Thank you for that advice Terry! I'm gladly taking it! Mom has developed heart troubles and has to go in to have her heart shocked to try to get it back into a normal rhythm. All this stress with difficult child is hard on her too - my parents were the ultimate grandparents to my kids - amazing grandparents and this is very hard on them to see him going in this direction. Thanks again! It helps so much to know that people are there who understand where I'm coming from. My friends son is just a few months older than difficult child. Is getting ready to graduate this year, going off to college, just saved enough money to buy his own car. Such a contrast to my own child. Sigh..... I just keep reminding myself that he can accomplish all of these thing later in life if he chooses to turn things around for himself. [/QUOTE]
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