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<blockquote data-quote="missy44" data-source="post: 261567" data-attributes="member: 6201"><p>HI all,</p><p>Another update... my difficult child continues to go to counselling and is still looking for a job (he's had some interviews, so fingers crossed, he's gained 14 pounds with his protein shakes and homemade meals seem to be helping, he's been going to the gym 3 times a week, a full physical will be scheduled in the next week or so and he has an appointment with a psychiatrist on May 5th.</p><p> </p><p>I'm a little scared because we are moving him into his own place on Wednesday and i'm not sure he's ready, but at least when he's out i won't be worrying so much. He still goes out at night and doesn't come home, but he always calls before 10pm to let us know that he won't be home. Most of his friends have their own places so I guess it's more fun for him there...</p><p> </p><p>This past weekend he was out on Friday night (partying a bit I suspect). He had promised his little sister that he would go to her hockey game that was at 8:00am on Saturday morning. I was sure he wouldn't show, but he showed up at 8:05am, he had one of his friends get up and drive him. It was a little step, but i was so happy that he kept his promise.</p><p> </p><p>on Saturday, he was tired and didn't go to the gym with his little brother. His brother was quite disappointed (there is a lot of repairing for my difficult child to do as his little brother feels his big brother abandoned him and was acting pretty 'stupid' during the past seven months), on Sunday my difficult child took two hours and went and worked out with my younger son.</p><p> </p><p>He didn't come last night, but called, he was home this morning ready to go to see his counsellor and then he went to the dentist for a cleaning and to have one of his caps repaired. He spent the rest of the day hanging out with my husband, handed out resumes, picked out a cell phone plan for himself and came home to have dinner with us. Tonight he'll most likely stay at his friends again. I wish I could get the worry out of mind, i think the worst... I know he's most likely smoking pot and i can't change that, but if he continues to get his life together and gets into the psyc maybe he'll see that there is more to life (I think he already knows that).</p><p> </p><p>I believe the counsellor who told me "i really don't suspect you're dealing with a "major hard core" drug issue, i believe you're dealing with a kid who is lost, depressed and trying to get his life back". He thinks he </p><p>has been smoking ALOT of pot, but feels it is more psychological and that once his issues of depression are dealt with, he'll be okay in the end.</p><p> </p><p>I wish i were as optimistic, i'm a worrier by nature. I guess the move will eliminate some of worry. I won't always know when he's out or when he's not coming home.</p><p> </p><p>We've agreed that he will come home at least 2x's a week for dinner and he'll go to the gym with his little brother at least once a week. My husband and i have agreed that we will pick him up and take him to all his medical and counselling appointments, but he will use his bus pass to get to work (when he gets a job) and to get to the gym. The counsellor has suggested that we stay as involved as much as possible in all of his medical and counselling appointments until our difficult child has enough motivation and confidence to do it on his own.</p><p> </p><p>Any thoughts on all of this. Thanks to all!</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="missy44, post: 261567, member: 6201"] HI all, Another update... my difficult child continues to go to counselling and is still looking for a job (he's had some interviews, so fingers crossed, he's gained 14 pounds with his protein shakes and homemade meals seem to be helping, he's been going to the gym 3 times a week, a full physical will be scheduled in the next week or so and he has an appointment with a psychiatrist on May 5th. I'm a little scared because we are moving him into his own place on Wednesday and i'm not sure he's ready, but at least when he's out i won't be worrying so much. He still goes out at night and doesn't come home, but he always calls before 10pm to let us know that he won't be home. Most of his friends have their own places so I guess it's more fun for him there... This past weekend he was out on Friday night (partying a bit I suspect). He had promised his little sister that he would go to her hockey game that was at 8:00am on Saturday morning. I was sure he wouldn't show, but he showed up at 8:05am, he had one of his friends get up and drive him. It was a little step, but i was so happy that he kept his promise. on Saturday, he was tired and didn't go to the gym with his little brother. His brother was quite disappointed (there is a lot of repairing for my difficult child to do as his little brother feels his big brother abandoned him and was acting pretty 'stupid' during the past seven months), on Sunday my difficult child took two hours and went and worked out with my younger son. He didn't come last night, but called, he was home this morning ready to go to see his counsellor and then he went to the dentist for a cleaning and to have one of his caps repaired. He spent the rest of the day hanging out with my husband, handed out resumes, picked out a cell phone plan for himself and came home to have dinner with us. Tonight he'll most likely stay at his friends again. I wish I could get the worry out of mind, i think the worst... I know he's most likely smoking pot and i can't change that, but if he continues to get his life together and gets into the psyc maybe he'll see that there is more to life (I think he already knows that). I believe the counsellor who told me "i really don't suspect you're dealing with a "major hard core" drug issue, i believe you're dealing with a kid who is lost, depressed and trying to get his life back". He thinks he has been smoking ALOT of pot, but feels it is more psychological and that once his issues of depression are dealt with, he'll be okay in the end. I wish i were as optimistic, i'm a worrier by nature. I guess the move will eliminate some of worry. I won't always know when he's out or when he's not coming home. We've agreed that he will come home at least 2x's a week for dinner and he'll go to the gym with his little brother at least once a week. My husband and i have agreed that we will pick him up and take him to all his medical and counselling appointments, but he will use his bus pass to get to work (when he gets a job) and to get to the gym. The counsellor has suggested that we stay as involved as much as possible in all of his medical and counselling appointments until our difficult child has enough motivation and confidence to do it on his own. Any thoughts on all of this. Thanks to all! [/QUOTE]
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