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<blockquote data-quote="nlj" data-source="post: 646548" data-attributes="member: 17650"><p>Hello COM</p><p></p><p>I'm sad to hear of your son's girlfriend miscarrying. I suppose it's the wrong time for a child and these things happen for a reason, but it's still sad. Your son's mixed feelings about this are understandable.</p><p></p><p>It's hard to have so many unanswered questions. I've stopped asking myself "why this" and "why that". All those questions used to keep me awake at night. The strange attractions between people are one of life's mysteries. Maybe we could apply those questions to ourselves - I have no idea why I was with my first husband, I have no idea how I managed to get pregnant at the age of 45... I mean... how ridiculous! Why do we fall in love with the people we fall in love with? Why does my husband love me? You could equally ask 'why is your son's girlfriend with him?' as 'why is he with her?'. I love my son, but I'm bewildered by the women who seem to be attracted to him. He <em>smells</em>! </p><p></p><p>You are very open and accepting to have welcomed her at Christmas and treated her as one of the family. You didn't judge her, or them, you simply accepted her. That's lovely. I hope I would be able to do the same. </p><p></p><p>I know there are still issues, but he's working hard, living in a decent place, committed to a relationship which, although isn't perfect, he seems happy with - and, after all, what relationship is perfect? I'm not sure there's any such thing.</p><p></p><p>I'm happy to hear that you sound so much calmer and that you are moving towards a better place in parallel with your son's unsteady journey to his own better place.</p><p></p><p>We know that this is just a snapshot in time, that this is an update for now, that things may change again. But <em>carpe diem</em>! Let tomorrow take care of itself for now.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="nlj, post: 646548, member: 17650"] Hello COM I'm sad to hear of your son's girlfriend miscarrying. I suppose it's the wrong time for a child and these things happen for a reason, but it's still sad. Your son's mixed feelings about this are understandable. It's hard to have so many unanswered questions. I've stopped asking myself "why this" and "why that". All those questions used to keep me awake at night. The strange attractions between people are one of life's mysteries. Maybe we could apply those questions to ourselves - I have no idea why I was with my first husband, I have no idea how I managed to get pregnant at the age of 45... I mean... how ridiculous! Why do we fall in love with the people we fall in love with? Why does my husband love me? You could equally ask 'why is your son's girlfriend with him?' as 'why is he with her?'. I love my son, but I'm bewildered by the women who seem to be attracted to him. He [I]smells[/I]! You are very open and accepting to have welcomed her at Christmas and treated her as one of the family. You didn't judge her, or them, you simply accepted her. That's lovely. I hope I would be able to do the same. I know there are still issues, but he's working hard, living in a decent place, committed to a relationship which, although isn't perfect, he seems happy with - and, after all, what relationship is perfect? I'm not sure there's any such thing. I'm happy to hear that you sound so much calmer and that you are moving towards a better place in parallel with your son's unsteady journey to his own better place. We know that this is just a snapshot in time, that this is an update for now, that things may change again. But [I]carpe diem[/I]! Let tomorrow take care of itself for now. [/QUOTE]
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