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<blockquote data-quote="DammitJanet" data-source="post: 478835" data-attributes="member: 1514"><p>I would want the group home to have to deal with all his appointments with the po, caseworkers, mentors, etc so you dont have to deal with that garbage. If they want to do a nice little behavior contract with him, go for it. They will probably offer him new sneakers or an Mp3 player or Ipod for going to school and coming right home and keeping his room clean or something that he will like. More power to them. Those are things you wouldnt be doing so he will probably work for them. Not a reflection on you. They just tend to have the funding for expensive carrots. Dont worry about it. </p><p></p><p>You can look and visit several of the group homes. Dont just pick the first one offered. Visit several different times to see what they are doing. Make sure you see them when the boys are there. Make sure you are going to be able to visit. Find out if you will be called if he gets sick...very sick. You dont need to be called if he gets a sore throat or a splinter. Can you bring treats to the boys? </p><p></p><p>Family therapy. Can you have it at the therapists office and can the mentor bring difficult child to the office or can someone else bring him from the home? Not you. That way he goes back to the group home with them and you go home alone since that seems to be a point of conflict. That really shouldnt be an issue. That happened all the time with Cory's group home. For that one session, you could make a point of taking off from work since all his other stuff was being done at the group home. Also you should be able to do one family therapy session a month by phone. One in person a month and one by phone. Or if you do it weekly, one weekly in person, next week by phone, next week in person, next week by phone. You get the drift. Cory's therapist did that for us because we lived over an hour and a half away.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="DammitJanet, post: 478835, member: 1514"] I would want the group home to have to deal with all his appointments with the po, caseworkers, mentors, etc so you dont have to deal with that garbage. If they want to do a nice little behavior contract with him, go for it. They will probably offer him new sneakers or an Mp3 player or Ipod for going to school and coming right home and keeping his room clean or something that he will like. More power to them. Those are things you wouldnt be doing so he will probably work for them. Not a reflection on you. They just tend to have the funding for expensive carrots. Dont worry about it. You can look and visit several of the group homes. Dont just pick the first one offered. Visit several different times to see what they are doing. Make sure you see them when the boys are there. Make sure you are going to be able to visit. Find out if you will be called if he gets sick...very sick. You dont need to be called if he gets a sore throat or a splinter. Can you bring treats to the boys? Family therapy. Can you have it at the therapists office and can the mentor bring difficult child to the office or can someone else bring him from the home? Not you. That way he goes back to the group home with them and you go home alone since that seems to be a point of conflict. That really shouldnt be an issue. That happened all the time with Cory's group home. For that one session, you could make a point of taking off from work since all his other stuff was being done at the group home. Also you should be able to do one family therapy session a month by phone. One in person a month and one by phone. Or if you do it weekly, one weekly in person, next week by phone, next week in person, next week by phone. You get the drift. Cory's therapist did that for us because we lived over an hour and a half away. [/QUOTE]
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