I'm sorry, I know some people take offense at this word, but I really think that difficult child is a wee bit retarded at times. According to the Webster's New Collegiate Dictionary......... Retarded: Slow or limited in intellectual or emotional development or academic progress. Now, if that doesn't describe difficult child, I don't know what does. She is back with Monkeyboy. I've felt it in my gut for about 2.5 weeks now and through some investigations and not so fabulous lies and fabrications on her part, it's confirmed (at least for me - she's still denying it). I am currently detached. Inside I am seething, sad, and afraid. But otherwise, I have taken a step back. I have to. The past month dealing with my mom, etc., has been so stressful - I'm saturated and just don't have the energy for anything else. She got a job at Marshalls and begins Wednesday. I am hopeful that this will be a turning point for her to be more independent and move away from the dregs of society. And on another good note, she is off the patch and got the 3-month shot. Much much better without the lack of mood swings she was experiencing, I have to say. I wish we had said yes to this a year ago!