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<blockquote data-quote="slsh" data-source="post: 107126" data-attributes="member: 8"><p>Had to search my brain for why on *earth* you'd be licking Evercleer off the sidewalk and then it hit... and I'm still wiping tears away. You have a gift for descriptive imagery!</p><p></p><p>Coming at it from a slightly different angle, Star. While it would certainly be reassuring to know for sure where Dude is and to know that he's being seriously supervised and schooled... does he really need that level of supervision for only 8 months? Ok, yes, it would be really nice to have someone besides you keeping a close eye on him because he's choice-impaired but is he going to get any real benefit out of the program? Will he actually learn to make better choices down this home stretch or will he simply be prevented from making the bad ones for a short period of time? And what happens at that magical 18th b-day, if you do go for the move?</p><p></p><p>The flip side is, is he getting any benefit out of current program? Can he get any benefit out of any program? </p><p></p><p>I don't know - my heart says I want to know where my kid is and what he's doing 24/7 but my brain is telling me that at this late date that will only give me a false sense of security and it further delays the inevitable time when he has to head out into the big world and make his choices, good, bad, or indifferent.</p><p></p><p>And maybe I'm just a doggone wimp - much rather he make the choices in his current semi-supervised setting where someone else will pick him up from the police station than here at home or on his own when I'm going to be the one getting those "pick me up, Mom" calls, and then I'm going to have to be the grinch who says "hoof it".</p><p></p><p>Does the state have voc ed/rehab counselors, and can you get *them* to work with- him on the job stuff since group home can't/won't? </p><p></p><p>I think a face-to-face mtg is definitely called for. Absolutely, Dude needs to be involved in this... egads, what is the woman thinking? Communication needs to be straightened out, in my humble opinion. If he comes home, checks in, isn't supposed to leave but does and they let him... well, what do they expect? They shouldn't be able to cry "AWOL" if they watched him go out the door. </p><p></p><p>On the third hand, he *does* have probation hanging over his head here and, with him being in jeopardy of doing actual jail time... I'm back to thinking 8 months in a locked facility will at least buy him 8 months.</p><p></p><p>I don't know, Star. I am absolutely sure that you'll make the best possible decision here. It's a really tough call.</p><p></p><p>Sending some Bailey's Mint for your morning coffee. Hugs.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="slsh, post: 107126, member: 8"] Had to search my brain for why on *earth* you'd be licking Evercleer off the sidewalk and then it hit... and I'm still wiping tears away. You have a gift for descriptive imagery! Coming at it from a slightly different angle, Star. While it would certainly be reassuring to know for sure where Dude is and to know that he's being seriously supervised and schooled... does he really need that level of supervision for only 8 months? Ok, yes, it would be really nice to have someone besides you keeping a close eye on him because he's choice-impaired but is he going to get any real benefit out of the program? Will he actually learn to make better choices down this home stretch or will he simply be prevented from making the bad ones for a short period of time? And what happens at that magical 18th b-day, if you do go for the move? The flip side is, is he getting any benefit out of current program? Can he get any benefit out of any program? I don't know - my heart says I want to know where my kid is and what he's doing 24/7 but my brain is telling me that at this late date that will only give me a false sense of security and it further delays the inevitable time when he has to head out into the big world and make his choices, good, bad, or indifferent. And maybe I'm just a doggone wimp - much rather he make the choices in his current semi-supervised setting where someone else will pick him up from the police station than here at home or on his own when I'm going to be the one getting those "pick me up, Mom" calls, and then I'm going to have to be the grinch who says "hoof it". Does the state have voc ed/rehab counselors, and can you get *them* to work with- him on the job stuff since group home can't/won't? I think a face-to-face mtg is definitely called for. Absolutely, Dude needs to be involved in this... egads, what is the woman thinking? Communication needs to be straightened out, in my humble opinion. If he comes home, checks in, isn't supposed to leave but does and they let him... well, what do they expect? They shouldn't be able to cry "AWOL" if they watched him go out the door. On the third hand, he *does* have probation hanging over his head here and, with him being in jeopardy of doing actual jail time... I'm back to thinking 8 months in a locked facility will at least buy him 8 months. I don't know, Star. I am absolutely sure that you'll make the best possible decision here. It's a really tough call. Sending some Bailey's Mint for your morning coffee. Hugs. [/QUOTE]
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