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<blockquote data-quote="Malika" data-source="post: 559072" data-attributes="member: 11227"><p>Well... he did take snacks and drink with him to the pony riding (I didn't take him, he went with a neighbour whose little girl also rides). But what happened was that AS SOON as he got back from riding, he rushed out again saying he was going to play with the little girl. Maybe that's at the heart of what is wrong and difficult about J's personality or - not to put the blame on him - our dynamics. It's okay for him to go and the little girl's mother tells me it is okay for him to call round but it is obviously not okay for him just to take off without asking me or discussing what time he should be back - but he was off before I could stop him and rushing after him would just cause a big scene that I wanted, truth be told, to avoid... Of course I did say he had to ask and talk to me before he goes but I know he'll do it again, probably without thinking. This is J all over - when he wants to do something, he rushes off in the moment, without thinking. And I have learnt to avoid many battles - but not the ones I think are worth fighting.</p><p>So that is partly why he was so over-stimulated. He always wants excitement and stimulation even though he often needs quietness and calm.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Malika, post: 559072, member: 11227"] Well... he did take snacks and drink with him to the pony riding (I didn't take him, he went with a neighbour whose little girl also rides). But what happened was that AS SOON as he got back from riding, he rushed out again saying he was going to play with the little girl. Maybe that's at the heart of what is wrong and difficult about J's personality or - not to put the blame on him - our dynamics. It's okay for him to go and the little girl's mother tells me it is okay for him to call round but it is obviously not okay for him just to take off without asking me or discussing what time he should be back - but he was off before I could stop him and rushing after him would just cause a big scene that I wanted, truth be told, to avoid... Of course I did say he had to ask and talk to me before he goes but I know he'll do it again, probably without thinking. This is J all over - when he wants to do something, he rushes off in the moment, without thinking. And I have learnt to avoid many battles - but not the ones I think are worth fighting. So that is partly why he was so over-stimulated. He always wants excitement and stimulation even though he often needs quietness and calm. [/QUOTE]
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