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<blockquote data-quote="SuZir" data-source="post: 559118" data-attributes="member: 14557"><p>I understand your apprehension for medications. And to me what you describe is still close enough to "normal" (whatever that is) that I can easily see why you are not ready for medications yet. J is not hitting you, he is not totalling a house so he is basically just keeping a lot of noise. That is not dangerous. It's clear there was contributing factors and most of the time you can work on those. Not always and at times he may get meltdowns even with your best effort to minimize those stressors. And that is okay. If his meltdowns turn worse instead of getting better, if he has them frequently (in that case they can begin to influence his self-image), then you may want to think about medication again. And also of course if his impulsiveness starts to affect his peer relationships or schooling too much. </p><p></p><p>To me it sounds like that J's ability to have emotional control is about two years behind. This kind of temper tantrum would be totally normal for three year old. And tantrums there he hit you would be totally normal behaviour for two year old. So it seems that while J is maturing he is just coming little bit behind the others. That of course is very common to ADHD and if the gap doesn't get bigger but stays about the same, you are probably able to deal with it. With my difficult child the gap has gotten little bigger over the years (maybe four years now) and he has developed some other problems along the way, but still, now at nineteen he is maturing, just doing it little later than his peers. And I have my hopes up that one day he may even catch them on this.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="SuZir, post: 559118, member: 14557"] I understand your apprehension for medications. And to me what you describe is still close enough to "normal" (whatever that is) that I can easily see why you are not ready for medications yet. J is not hitting you, he is not totalling a house so he is basically just keeping a lot of noise. That is not dangerous. It's clear there was contributing factors and most of the time you can work on those. Not always and at times he may get meltdowns even with your best effort to minimize those stressors. And that is okay. If his meltdowns turn worse instead of getting better, if he has them frequently (in that case they can begin to influence his self-image), then you may want to think about medication again. And also of course if his impulsiveness starts to affect his peer relationships or schooling too much. To me it sounds like that J's ability to have emotional control is about two years behind. This kind of temper tantrum would be totally normal for three year old. And tantrums there he hit you would be totally normal behaviour for two year old. So it seems that while J is maturing he is just coming little bit behind the others. That of course is very common to ADHD and if the gap doesn't get bigger but stays about the same, you are probably able to deal with it. With my difficult child the gap has gotten little bigger over the years (maybe four years now) and he has developed some other problems along the way, but still, now at nineteen he is maturing, just doing it little later than his peers. And I have my hopes up that one day he may even catch them on this. [/QUOTE]
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