update on kt......

Discussion in 'General Parenting' started by timer lady, May 2, 2011.

  1. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    kt appears less manic ~ more the ktbug I know, love but don't always like. The increase in her seroquel seems to have made in impact.

    Doing the crime, however, meant doing the "time". kt was refusing testing for STDs, pregnancy, etc. I made an appointment with my family doctor; I've known her for 15 years now & every year during my pap we set up our annual golf games.

    Family doctor had no problem working with kt ~ kt didn't expect it but she had her first pelvic today. Dr. D explained to kt that since she's been sexually active with no protection she has no choice. Told kt that she was with her & not her pediatrician doctor because pediatrician doctors don't generally perform pelvic exams. Dr. D was wondeful (kt asked me to stay in the room) as she explained the entire process before & during. Explained to kt the exact diseases that were she was testing for & why she had to perform this pelvic exam.

    kt was taken aback ~ Dr. D helped kt relax. Told kt that she wasn't there to make comments or judgments, just to teach her how to take care of her body. "Sexual activity means regular pelvic exams, kt."

    I left the office thinking our girls, our children, are just too sexual & too complacent about their strong, healthy bodies.
  2. Jena

    Jena New Member

    i'm glad the seroquel worked, and i hope the tests come back positive. just went thru same exact thing with my daughter. never ever easy.......

    your doing a great job as usual. hang in there. shocking for them isnt it their first pelvic exam, and than they realize wow i have entered the adultworld.

    update when you find out....... sending good thoughts..
  3. tiredmommy

    tiredmommy Site Moderator

    Fingers crossed that she's healthy and not pregnant. Your doctor sounds like a keeper.
  4. HaoZi

    HaoZi Guest

    Ditto what TM said, and love the doctor.
  5. KTMom91

    KTMom91 Well-Known Member

    Hope everything comes out all right, Linda.
  6. LittleDudesMom

    LittleDudesMom Well-Known Member Staff Member


    glad to hear that kt is stabilizing a bit. It's good you got her to the doctor - a nice reality check for miss kt.

  7. pigless in VA

    pigless in VA Active Member

    Great job Linda and Dr. D! I know this exam must have been truly scary for ktbug. Yes, teens are complacent about their healthy bodies. Remember part of being a teen is the "it won't happen to me attitude." I think it is even harder for kt to learn to be protective of herself. It's a good thing she has you guiding her.
  8. AnnieO

    AnnieO Shooting from the Hip

    After multiple refusals... husband is the one who finally got through to Onyxx.

    I'm glad your doctor is so great!!!!!
  9. Nomad

    Nomad Guest

    Linda...glad you are being pro-active.
    Seroquel + more specifically "extra Seroquel" has always been helpful for our daughter. However, we know to watch for potential side effects (as I'm sure you do as well).

    Pigless??????? I think I remember you from eons ago!!!!! How are you?
  10. Wiped Out

    Wiped Out Well-Known Member Staff Member

    So glad to hear she is doing better with the increase of the seroquel! Your doctor is definitely a keeper!
  11. Marguerite

    Marguerite Active Member

    That doctor was brilliant. It's what we did with both our girls when they chose to become sexually active while under age. Sexual activity brings sexual responsibility, and the first and most urgent, is health checks. No judgement - just care for that body and keep it healthy. With a few years passed, it has borne fruit. easy child 2/difficult child 2 tested positive at her second Pap smear. She's had Gardasil, but clearly too late. After a few more years the doctors decided they needed to do something about her increasingly abnormal pap smears. A few months ago they did a colposcopy and LTTS procedure to excise the infected part of her cervix. We were told her condition had progressed to pre-cancerous, Stage 4. At age 23! One day she wants to have kids, and this can cause a lot of problems with fertility and the ability to carry to term. However, her specialist says we got it in time and the procedure outcome is excellent. If we had not been insisting on regular pap tests and on other related health checks then this could have been missed and I could be faced with losing a daughter to cancer when she fell pregnant.

    SIL2 was blaming himself, but it now looks like (given the likely time course of these things) that it not him, but her first boyfriend that gave the HPV to her. Considering first boyfriend was the one who was very possessive and controlling - ironic. Or maybe understandable, he knew how easy it was to be unfaithful in a relationship.

  12. exhausted

    exhausted Active Member

    So glad she got the exam. You are lucky to have such a good doctor. We have to do the same with difficult child every time she runs. The trick is not only getting them to care for their bodies but to care for themselves enough to even be safe. Mine has no regard for her life at all. I hope KT's tests are negative and she is ok. Hugs and prayers. This is so hard for you Im sure.
  13. timer lady

    timer lady Queen of Hearts

    kt isn't pregnant!:choir: The concern was there because of mood stabilizer decreasing the efficacy of the birth control.

    Waiting on the other tests.

    Yes, my GP is a wonderful lady & knows this stuff inside out. Besides being her patient, she is frequently my golf buddy during the summer. I get her out of the office & on the greens. On the fifth hole we order a wine cooler & toast my mom & her father. Seems the right way to honor golfers who've passed on. :bigsmile: