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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 599163" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>RE I feel your pain, I'm happy for you, having all of the support and using it. The hard part for me, in having an older difficult child, is accepting that this is what they are. I had always believed mine would out grow the Peter Pan Syndrome. My difficult child would be perfectly content to move back in with me and live here forever, of course that includes girlie and any other friends he wanted to help out, with me supporting everyone.</p><p></p><p>When my 33yo difficult child decided to quit his job and go to college full time a little over a year ago he became angry when I wasn't all excited about it. I kept asking questions about finances, I knew he would expect me to provide money each month.</p><p></p><p>Fate did step in, I found out he was conning me, and the eye glasses I had paid for that were broken two weeks later because he had stomped them in a temper tantrum, made me question what I 'perceived' as helping.</p><p></p><p>Now that I have cut off all financial help he has really showed me exactly what he thinks of me. Mine has lost everything, what few belongings he did have were stolen when girlie and her mother sat them outside in the rain. Even after that, and the time she spent in jail for coming after him with a knife in a drunken rage , her relatives telling him she was going to kill him. HE'S BACK WITH HER!</p><p></p><p>My son always told me that I didn't know when to give up. Well, I have finally learned that lesson. I still watch so many friends and relatives throw money at the problem, as I once did, hoping that one day our difficult children will finally live a life that we want them to live.</p><p></p><p>I thank you for sharing your experiences, your training, you have helped me very much. I'm not at the point where I can honestly say I am not upset by his actions, but I am also a lot closer to peace than I was a year ago. I also now except the fact that my son is an alcoholic and substance abuser - that was hard for me.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 599163, member: 13558"] RE I feel your pain, I'm happy for you, having all of the support and using it. The hard part for me, in having an older difficult child, is accepting that this is what they are. I had always believed mine would out grow the Peter Pan Syndrome. My difficult child would be perfectly content to move back in with me and live here forever, of course that includes girlie and any other friends he wanted to help out, with me supporting everyone. When my 33yo difficult child decided to quit his job and go to college full time a little over a year ago he became angry when I wasn't all excited about it. I kept asking questions about finances, I knew he would expect me to provide money each month. Fate did step in, I found out he was conning me, and the eye glasses I had paid for that were broken two weeks later because he had stomped them in a temper tantrum, made me question what I 'perceived' as helping. Now that I have cut off all financial help he has really showed me exactly what he thinks of me. Mine has lost everything, what few belongings he did have were stolen when girlie and her mother sat them outside in the rain. Even after that, and the time she spent in jail for coming after him with a knife in a drunken rage , her relatives telling him she was going to kill him. HE'S BACK WITH HER! My son always told me that I didn't know when to give up. Well, I have finally learned that lesson. I still watch so many friends and relatives throw money at the problem, as I once did, hoping that one day our difficult children will finally live a life that we want them to live. I thank you for sharing your experiences, your training, you have helped me very much. I'm not at the point where I can honestly say I am not upset by his actions, but I am also a lot closer to peace than I was a year ago. I also now except the fact that my son is an alcoholic and substance abuser - that was hard for me. [/QUOTE]
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