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<blockquote data-quote="Fran" data-source="post: 330269" data-attributes="member: 3"><p>TM, just to add to the insights that have been shared already, when you are a child of a mother who is not predictable or reasonable in her reactions to extreme stress we tend to anticipate and plan so that we can compensate for their lack of control by being calm and controlled. We don't worry as much as we plan. </p><p></p><p>Drama is something that we children of hysterical type parents tend to abhor and reject. We aren't ever going to change them and tend to just try to minimize the collateral damage. </p><p></p><p>I am dealing with a less dramatic situation of a mom who has terminal cardiac disease. She does go into denial so she can just live her life as she has always done and has no intention of making any plans. This denial leaves the responsibility of planning on someone else. They have lived their lives this way and has no concern about how this will affect those who care for them will be.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Fran, post: 330269, member: 3"] TM, just to add to the insights that have been shared already, when you are a child of a mother who is not predictable or reasonable in her reactions to extreme stress we tend to anticipate and plan so that we can compensate for their lack of control by being calm and controlled. We don't worry as much as we plan. Drama is something that we children of hysterical type parents tend to abhor and reject. We aren't ever going to change them and tend to just try to minimize the collateral damage. I am dealing with a less dramatic situation of a mom who has terminal cardiac disease. She does go into denial so she can just live her life as she has always done and has no intention of making any plans. This denial leaves the responsibility of planning on someone else. They have lived their lives this way and has no concern about how this will affect those who care for them will be. [/QUOTE]
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