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<blockquote data-quote="Tiredof33" data-source="post: 607490" data-attributes="member: 13558"><p>If your wife does not want to go to counseling, I would go without her. I totally understand your feelings of wanting him out of your life. We reach a point where we just can't take it any more, the years of stress were taking a toll on my health. </p><p></p><p>My son just contacted me after almost a year and I was hesitant to get in touch with him. I finally left him a short message on FB, until he gets his life together I would rather not know what is going on.</p><p></p><p>As hard as it was to not help (enable) my son anymore, it was the best thing I could do for ME. I finally understood that he was not going to help himself as long as someone else did it for him. He actually went no contact with me after I ignored his suicide threats when I refused to send money. </p><p></p><p>I had people tell me there was no way they would ever lose contact with their child. in my opinion, they haven't been pushed far enough! These aren't teens any more, by their age they should be settled and able to support themselves.</p><p></p><p>Sounds like your wife has not reached that point yet. I agree with you, he will continue to use her as long as he can. And I also would be concerned about stealing. </p><p></p><p>Wishing you a stress free day.</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Tiredof33, post: 607490, member: 13558"] If your wife does not want to go to counseling, I would go without her. I totally understand your feelings of wanting him out of your life. We reach a point where we just can't take it any more, the years of stress were taking a toll on my health. My son just contacted me after almost a year and I was hesitant to get in touch with him. I finally left him a short message on FB, until he gets his life together I would rather not know what is going on. As hard as it was to not help (enable) my son anymore, it was the best thing I could do for ME. I finally understood that he was not going to help himself as long as someone else did it for him. He actually went no contact with me after I ignored his suicide threats when I refused to send money. I had people tell me there was no way they would ever lose contact with their child. in my opinion, they haven't been pushed far enough! These aren't teens any more, by their age they should be settled and able to support themselves. Sounds like your wife has not reached that point yet. I agree with you, he will continue to use her as long as he can. And I also would be concerned about stealing. Wishing you a stress free day. [/QUOTE]
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