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<blockquote data-quote="Nancy" data-source="post: 484229" data-attributes="member: 59"><p>I can tell you from my difficult child's perspective it's about learning how to live in her own skin and learning how to live in a sober world. She really really is an alcoholic. She can't just drink one drink or smoke one pot. When she drank she drank a case a night. I know when she told me that and I told people how miuch she drank they said it was impossible. I found out from her rehab that it is very often the case. The first time she drank she drank a ton and threw up. The she threw up every other time she drank. Once she starts she cannot stop and she craves it and will stop at nothing to get it. Her counselor told the group that if there was a half glass of wine on a table the counselor would wonder why it wasn't being drank and would drink it herself if it was left there. She cannot even be in a room with alcohol. That's what I believe my difficult child is like. Years ago when she was 15 and at her friends house she got drunk and her friend told her she didn't know how to stop. This coming from another 15 year old. So even they knew she had a problem.</p><p></p><p>She has never been comfortable in her own skin. She needs to be drunk of high to feel like she fits in or that people like her. She has to have sober friends and learn how to have fun and live sober. She has a lot of issues that go way back but her genes gave her an addictive personality. Which came first the chicken or the egg. Just because she didn't drink at age 5 didn't mean she wasn't an addict. An addict is an addict is an addict. Just because they haven't used in years doesn't mean they are no longer an addict. It just means that the addiction doesn't control them. </p><p></p><p>For my difficult child it isn't a matter of having a dream. An active alcoholic/drug addict has to be sober and have a clear head for a good long time before dreams are even a possibility. Otherwise it's just a bunch of talk.</p><p></p><p>Nancy</p></blockquote><p></p>
[QUOTE="Nancy, post: 484229, member: 59"] I can tell you from my difficult child's perspective it's about learning how to live in her own skin and learning how to live in a sober world. She really really is an alcoholic. She can't just drink one drink or smoke one pot. When she drank she drank a case a night. I know when she told me that and I told people how miuch she drank they said it was impossible. I found out from her rehab that it is very often the case. The first time she drank she drank a ton and threw up. The she threw up every other time she drank. Once she starts she cannot stop and she craves it and will stop at nothing to get it. Her counselor told the group that if there was a half glass of wine on a table the counselor would wonder why it wasn't being drank and would drink it herself if it was left there. She cannot even be in a room with alcohol. That's what I believe my difficult child is like. Years ago when she was 15 and at her friends house she got drunk and her friend told her she didn't know how to stop. This coming from another 15 year old. So even they knew she had a problem. She has never been comfortable in her own skin. She needs to be drunk of high to feel like she fits in or that people like her. She has to have sober friends and learn how to have fun and live sober. She has a lot of issues that go way back but her genes gave her an addictive personality. Which came first the chicken or the egg. Just because she didn't drink at age 5 didn't mean she wasn't an addict. An addict is an addict is an addict. Just because they haven't used in years doesn't mean they are no longer an addict. It just means that the addiction doesn't control them. For my difficult child it isn't a matter of having a dream. An active alcoholic/drug addict has to be sober and have a clear head for a good long time before dreams are even a possibility. Otherwise it's just a bunch of talk. Nancy [/QUOTE]
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